I told my husband quite recently (in the last 6mths) about my tendencies towards this lifestyle, and on the whole, although it does nothing for him he has been supportive and even tried to satisfy me in that way. But he still slips little things into conversation like ' oh there was a film on late last night, i recorded it, thought u'd be interested as its about weirdos like you' - leading me to believe that he is very far from understanding my need to submit. My best friend however, when i told her, was (and is) a tower of strength, she doesnt totally understand my need for my master, and always jokes that she would far rather wield the whip than submit to it, but she never judges me and if i tell her things about my masters tasks for me or what we did when we met she is never shocked or disgusted, but asks me intelligent and caring questions and tells me she will always be there for me. But i also notice on tv that its always the comedy character who is wielding a whip and dressed head to foot in leather!! The woman who is submissive is always the underdog, the weak one - they never add that to submit, totally to someone else is one of the hardest things to do and requires inner strength and trust the likes of which ordinary folk do not possess. So if people want to perceive me as a poor girl who enjoys being made to crawl and kneel for a guy who is sitting back in his chair staring deep into her eyes as she makes every part of herself available to him, for his use and his use only........ well let them - i know where i'd rather be.