I didn't mean as in discuss details, but on occasion just saying I am into BDSM (kind of like saying one is gay) would go a long way...rather than trying to make sense by going round and round and never fully making sense. I am a very honest and open person, so yeah if I think about it I do feel a bit resentful, because there is nothing wrong with what we are doing. And this whole secrecy thing is terribly exhausting....God forbid I should slip and call my boyfriend "sir" in front of others, while they get to call their partners all the different sickly sweet and obnoxious names.

No matter, I know it is not likely to change anytime soon.