This has been bugging me for a while, so I'm finally bringing it up. This place is loaded with tremendous resources for subs, both experienced and new. And there's been umpteen discussions on the "wannabe Dom" and how to idnentify one, but I've never once in my time here seen a real discussion about the flipside of that coin, the wannabe sub. In this particular area I feel there's been a bit of a slant, and it would be healthy and constructive to look at the other side of things too.

Just as not all people calling themselves Dominant online are telling you the truth, neither are all the ones calling themselves a sub. Perhaps some of them simply feel the need for attention. Perhaps many of them truly believe they are a sub (as I am positive many wannabe Doms truly believe they are Dom). Just as some online Doms don't do so well in real time, some online subs struggle to be able to do all those things once they make the big move to real life. There are a multitude of issues that have had resources offered for them here, many of those resources of the most excellent variety (I can't tell you all how much I've already learned in my time here) but virtually all of them seem to deal with the assumption that the sub is always the one being honest, and that the sub is always 100% prepared/capable of being what they claim to be. This puzzles me somewhat.

I don't personally feel that I have the experience to give out great amounts of info on this subject, but it isn't one I've really seen broached here much and I think we could do with some input on it from those in the know. I'm hoping those people will offer contributions. Because yes, Doms put a lot out there in relationships too, and nobody wants to end up with their feelings trampled on. Granted, subs are putting more on the line than the Doms usually in terms of the risk of someone getting hurt, but I still think this is a point worth brining up for discussion and I'm very interested to see where it leads. I'm hoping this could be rather educational.

For new Doms especially (and everyone has to start at the beginning), it's easy to get caught up in someone saying "I want to be Yours" or people calling you "Master", or whatever. It can be hard to root out those who are serious and those that are only playing around. As they say in any relationship, it takes two to tango, so here's to discussing the differences between the real and the wannabe subs. I'm hoping it will be as informative as the discussions on Doms have been.