Argh you're right that I shouldn't have used the "good dominant" phrase, that was silly of me, but I'll leave it there now for continuity. On the rest I wasn't talking about the value of service or a person per se, but rather specifically the act of submission. If there is no choice made then I think it's hard to even call it 'submission,' and for a choice to be made there has to be an alternative that is discarded.