I like bratty subs, they offer constant opportunities to whip them back into line. More seriously, I like to know my sub still has a mind of her own: it makes her submission so much more valuable. As I've said elsewhere, if I want mindless devotion, I'll get a spaniel.That works for this Dom.
to me submission is also in the act of submitting even when i don't really feel like it. its not just the days i fly to my knees because I can't wait for Him to find me there, its the days its hard to do and I do it anyway. I believe its that I may think of telling Him go get your own water, but I get up and get it because He told me to.