lol, blythe =)

As for me, i think the statement that submission is a gift is a romanticized way of stating that the act of submission lies solely in the subs hands -- yes, a Dom/me may "take" it, but consensually speaking it is the sub's to give.

personally, i feel more like a Dom/me should earn the right to top me, and strictly speaking one doesn't "earn" gifts. Not trying to be conceited, but i just feel like it's such a big part of who i am that i would want to make sure that Who i'm giving it to is trustworthy and capable. And that goes both ways -- i'm well aware that i damn sure have to earn my place as a sub. *grin* Of course, that's half the fun.