Is Submission a gift

[cookiecat]

i am definitely in the minority.

i get the reciprocal trust, the nurturing aspects. and i understand the idea of completion. that my submissive self is the missing piece of his dominant self.

but it's all so hallmark greeting card sounding. like i have this thing - my submission - all wrapped up so pretty that i hand to him.

it's a work in process. it's fluid. sometimes i fail him and sometimes his actions aren't what i expect. but we work together to come out stronger.

i don't see my submission as a gift. maybe i'm getting hung up on semantics. i see my submission as a part of me. and i give him my whole self.

[Diablo]

i am definitely in the minority.

i get the reciprocal trust, the nurturing aspects. and i understand the idea of completion. that my submissive self is the missing piece of his dominant self.

but it's all so hallmark greeting card sounding. like i have this thing - my submission - all wrapped up so pretty that i hand to him.

it's a work in process. it's fluid. sometimes i fail him and sometimes his actions aren't what i expect. but we work together to come out stronger.

i don't see my submission as a gift. maybe i'm getting hung up on semantics. i see my submission as a part of me. and i give him my whole self.

Indeed you are getting caught in semantics.

How is it only a part of you?

It is who you are, just as your intelligence or empathy or any other characteristic is who you are.

So giving your submission is as much about giving that aspect as it is giving yourself. It would not be a gift if the dom just deserved it, that would be a right. But we must get to know each other before entering into a Dom sub relationship and the gift is a two way street.

We give each other exactly what the other seeks. The gift of submission for the gift of domination, so a trade. But it is not that simple. The sub gives up certain or complete control and for that, I at least view it as one of the greatest most selfless gifts.

One I would never be able to do myself. So I thank My kitten for her gift to me.