Is Submission a gift

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I think that somewhere someone down the line used the term "submission as a gift" as a way to romanticize D/s.

I never really liked the term, because it made me think of sitting around with my neatly packaged submission, waiting to give it to a Dominant who showed some interest.
I don't think it is given away, it is shared with someone who also gives thier Dominance as well.
There isn't really any talk of Dominants giving away thier gift of dominance and for me it's soley the exchange of power within the relationship.
I submit to someone else who enjoys and appreciates what I have to offer, in turn they offer me thier Dominance.

I don't give and offer up my submission to be used as some precious, altruistic thing. I want to be submissive, I want to serve and be owned; another who finds that side of me attractive does not take it, but shares and nurtures that part of me.
I own my submission and it's a gift I give to myself really.

[icey]

I think that somewhere someone down the line used the term "submission as a gift" as a way to romanticize D/s.

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that says it all for me! like many other of the romanticisms involved in bdsm.
it just sounds concieted and a bit sloppy to me and sometimes it comes across almost as though people are trying to justify submission in some way, im not saying they are but it can at times appear that way.
ive always wondered this..if submissions considered a gift then whats Dominance?

[Pearlgem]

Without dominance, submission is meaningless, and vv. Why else are we all looking for someone, if it was enough to 'be' dominant or submissive by yourself? A Dominant allows the submissive to be submissive, to give her gift of submission to him. He facilitates it, allows it, accepts it.
But I don't think it's too fanciful to say the Dominant also gifts his dominance to the sub. If there was anything half hearted about it on either side, the whole transaction would collapse.
I always find it extraordinary - despite the seeming 'rules', strictures and disciplines of BDSM, we are actually freely giving each other a willing gift.

[RickBulow74]

that says it all for me! like many other of the romanticisms involved in bdsm.
it just sounds concieted and a bit sloppy to me and sometimes it comes across almost as though people are trying to justify submission in some way, im not saying they are but it can at times appear that way.
ive always wondered this..if submissions considered a gift then whats Dominance?

This is a good question indeed. Many consider it to be something from within and not a gift. However, it begs the question: Can Dominance be considered a gift as well? Possible poll question in the futuew.

[icey]

This is a good question indeed. Many consider it to be something from within and not a gift. However, it begs the question: Can Dominance be considered a gift as well? Possible poll question in the futuew.

i look forward to the poll