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Quote Originally Posted by TomOfSweden
What we need in this discussion is a definition of what the word entails. Because it seems to be different for all of us.
I quote wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glossary_of_BDSM
Wannabe: Someone who thinks or claims to be knowledgeable about BDSM, but is not. Especially prevalent with new Doms.
We can apply that in this instance to submissives.

As far as having D/s in a sexual or non sexual context, or online vs offline.

That is simply a matter of preference. One or the other is not better that the other. To claim it is, well that undermines the pricipals of BDSM.

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