This topic interests me, as I think there is a vital point that has not been addressed yet.

Majority of subs online- who are in the process of, or already have discovered that they have submissive needs- do not obtain the right 'information'.

Many- including myself (honestly) started in chat rooms, fantasy forums, all things fantasy- and what ends up happening- is that these new subs pick up on what they see in this fantasy. Such as (as has been stated) addressing every Master as Sir regardless if she knows them or not because this is what she has learned.

See, these chatroom scenes reinforce the idea that the way one becomes a good submissive is by putting on an act, by pretending to be a good submissive rather than by doing the hard inner work it actually requires. (But for one new to bdsm, they dont know where to go first, and that is where the misinformation comes from.)

Submission is something inside you, not something you convince others of by faking an attitude. Unfortunately, very few ppl, unless they're lucky enough to run into those few who either have actual experience or are intelligent and lucky enough to figure out the difference between fantasy and reality, realize this very basic fact.

When such incredible ignorance about very basic ideas exists and is perpetuated by so many in the S&M subculture, those people who want to live a BDSM life style need to make a clear distinction between the fantasy aspects of BDSM and the real aspects- and this can be EXTREMELY difficult for one who is completely new to the concept.

Rather than putting off new 'subs' as fakers, its important to correct his/her beliefs about S&M and enlighten. Many new subs dont Know how to behave, they only know what they see in chatrooms and roleplay scenes.

Isolating a new sub certainly does not do any good for her, and will most likely cause even more confusion.

And for a 'wannabe sub' that has been misled, there can be some very difficult situations once she tries to move from fantasy into reality.

That isnt to say there arent 'wannabes' out there.. I know full well there are girls that are only saying theyre subs to get some attention. What I am saying is to be careful and keep an open heart. You never know if that person could just be confused.