How to give the BEST blow job?

[MrJerseyGuy]

Guy walks into a bar and orders a shot of Jack Daniels. He follows it up with another and another until his 6th.

The bartender finally walks over to the customer and asks "Are you celebrating something???"

The guy replies "My first blow job."

Bartender says, "OH!!! Congradulations, let me buy your next shot!"

The man thinks for a second and says, "Nah...if the first 6 didn't get that taste out of my mouth nothing will."

[learningtopleez]

ROFLMAO!! Thanks MrJerseyGuy! I needed that!

[pejanon]

some times a picture is worth a 1,000 words.


I have only cum once from receiving head. My wife thinks that my cock might not be as sensative as most men. Is there a possibility that when I was having my cercumsision when I was a boy -that some nerve endings were cut? I have no problem keeping my erection - but it takes me being "inside" to have me cum.

My own thoughts on this is that it might be a control thing with me. I feel like when I am receiving head - I am the one receiving - not doing - and by not "doing" I am not in control -- as a Dom - I like to be in control.

anyway - those are some of my thoughts.

John

Nerve ending cut!? No, as far as I know, Supposedy the nerve endinging get desensitized on exposed glans - possiby a myth too.

I will go with the control factor - very powerfull. I can cum but tend to shy away from it. I see it more as a reward I like to give for great effort.

Deepthoating is for me more metnal dominat thing then great plasur - at last I haven't receved one yet that was pure pleasure ... hmmm


uncut Pej

[learningtopleez]

I haven't receved one yet that was pure pleasure ... hmmm
uncut Pej

I am soooo NOT going there!! But man do I wanna!

[pejanon]

I am soooo NOT going there!! But man do I wanna!

NOT?


wanna?


there are ways of making pipe dreams come true...
Then - there are OTHER ways.... of making it treu


P

[charlestudor]

NOT?


wanna?


there are ways of making pipe dreams come true...
Then - there are OTHER ways.... of making it treu


P

"pipe dreams?" -- maybe this is what i should call it when i close my eyes, and visualize a beautiful woman wrapping her lips around my cock, as i inevitably have to resort to getting myself off.

ct

[Domtotrain]

So glad to see this topic brought up. If only men knew how much women wanted to learn how to give absolutely perfect blow jobs!

That damn gag reflex! They taught us in nursing school (for different purposes of course) to tell patients to breathe through their nose, but that doesn't completely make the gag reflex magically disappear...

I've read a lot online that men like gentle play with the balls during a blow job, but I have yet to meet one in person who would admit it, let alone give pointers.

And why do men so like women to swallow? Hey, I'm all for it if the man likes it. But my question is, are there some men out there who either don't care, or who are actually repulsed by a woman who swallows?

Preface: Everyone is different. I speak in generalitys for the masses but in specifics for me.

Why do we like women to swallow? I think the majority will agree that the most intense form of pleasure for a man is a well performed blow job. The climax is just that, the epitome of the intense feelings. Imagine that at the magic moment when you are feeling the best feelings possilbe they stop! Any interruption is magnified at that moment. A man's orgasam doesn't last that long in the first place. Even if it is substituted by a hand, or lips on the side of the shaft. Nothing can replace that engulfed feeling of a warm, wet, flexible, mouth that conforms to the exact surface of your penis. If the pressure is perfect (a little suction causes the sides of the mouth to come in contact with the shaft, extending the feeling over more of the lenght} as well, it is heaven! I for one do not care if the woman swallows. Just as long as she doesn't pull off or stop until I am completely expended. Spit, drool, swallow, gargle, while I enjoy the descent to the present, I don't care. I might not even notice. If the lady is talented enough to be doing the BJ handless and uses one hand to stimulate the balls while using a finger of the other hand to massage the prostrate, she is a keeper. I would make her my sub regardless of any less than perfect redeeming qualities.

Deep throating is a worthy goal ladies so keep trying. I am lucky/unlucky in that most women can deep throat me. Not right away, if they are not at least somewhat skilled, but with a minimal amount of effort. It is the one benefit of an "average" cock.

This may sound funny, but when I wanted to really learn how to eat pussy, I watched and studied lesbian porn flicks and later real lebians in action. I learned a lot. So, watch gay flicks and if you can observe them in action, go for it.

Return comments welcomed.
Domtotrain

[Barton]

A novel idea.

[Hime]

For the guys who have trouble getting there during oral: are you in the habit of, um, going commando? While sexy as hell (IMHO), it can have effects on sensitivity.

[Ozme52]

Commando? LOL. This modern era. Back in my day, it was called going regimental.

BTW, nothing quite so nice as wearing a kilt, regimental. The women love checking out your sporan...

[Sir_Russell]

oh well MJG how you doing been awhile since we chatted. I agree with my friend again from no actual experience on my part but I have coached a few ladies and it helps to swallow and to swallow before the gag starts. This is not a total quick cure but when practiced on a regular basis it works.

I would also say that mmmmmmm is right that licking is very good and hastens along the final mmmm out cum. Try taking your tongue out the side of your mouth the run it across your lips, and the cock, to the other side. This technique is best for me when done from the same side to the same side not back and forth, but that may just be me.

[orchidsoul]

I find deep throating so unbelievably horny, but have one question.

There's been the repeated mention of swallowing before hitting the gag reflex... but how does one swallow without teeth closing?

[Ozme52]

I find deep throating so unbelievably horny, but have one question.

There's been the repeated mention of swallowing before hitting the gag reflex... but how does one swallow without teeth closing?

Practice.

[~hellish one~]

I find deep throating so unbelievably horny, but have one question.

There's been the repeated mention of swallowing before hitting the gag reflex... but how does one swallow without teeth closing?

stick your finger in your mouth and close your lips around it...kinda suck a little bit and then see if you can swallow. i don't know if others can do this, but i can swallow without my teeth biting down hard on whatever is in my mouth.

[Charlie Brown 169]

Well admittedly I have not given blowjobs, only have I been on the receiving end. My former girl friend was great and she swallowed too. She had the ability to take my cock all the way to the base and when I would cum she just sucked it down. At the end she would pull out and then jack my cock up and down to extract the every last drop. She is great.

[OttifantSir]

When my hand slides down, I slip my mouth over the head and give it a quick swirl, then bring my hand back over the top. As I bring my hand up, I twist it, which is what he says drives him wild.

This technique was described in a show on Norwegian TV3 a while back. They called it "Lighting the Fire"

[OttifantSir]

I have only cum once from receiving head. My wife thinks that my cock might not be as sensative as most men. Is there a possibility that when I was having my cercumsision when I was a boy -that some nerve endings were cut? I have no problem keeping my erection - but it takes me being "inside" to have me cum.

John

Well, a study I read about a few years back said that un-circumcised men have 8 layers of skin on the tip of the cock, in general. While circumsised men have 14 layers of skin in general. Your cock-head isn't anatomically much different from your fingers and what happens when you do something too much? You get calluses. That's what happens. So, no cut nerve-endings, just a bit more skin to get through to those nerves.

[orchidsoul]

stick your finger in your mouth and close your lips around it...kinda suck a little bit and then see if you can swallow. i don't know if others can do this, but i can swallow without my teeth biting down hard on whatever is in my mouth.

Ooh Hellish- thank you for this. I didn't succeed so well at first, but with Ozme's suggestion of practice, I think this is a great way of practicing to not bite when swallowing.

[nowgirl]

Once, after reading a story here in bdsmlibrary called High-Heeled Hell, F and I decided to try a bit of breath play during oral sex. Like in the story, a rope was wound around my neck with a metal ring handle that could be twisted to control my breath as I went down on him.... He did say it made me look very helpless and sexy. I was so turned on by the idea of being strangled as he fucked my mouth that I was holding my breath all by myself without the rope really chocking me. I had two orgasms by the time he came inside my mouth.

just started reading this thread but... now must run to read the aformentioned story............. sounds delicious!

[gagged_Louise]

*just bumping this one because it seems to hold a wealth of useful talk and advice, and waiting for the A-Z alphabet to reach "O"

[Isabelle90]

*just bumping this one because it seems to hold a wealth of useful talk and advice, and waiting for the A-Z alphabet to reach "O"

This was a great one to bump!! Hellish Ones' advice on swallowing was extremely educational for me!

Darn it, Louise! I'm far too impatient to wait for O!!! I hadn't really given it a thought......until now!!!! Perhaps you should start a new thread for my fellow impatient ones!!!

[gagged_Louise]

Thanks isabelle, seems delia just started up a new thread on D for - guess what??
I'm sure some new talk will flow into both that one and this here old one - and the "O" letter? Might possibly deal with the mental side of taking a deep blow job...

[ThisYouWillDo]

Missed this first time around.

Why aren't many guys responding? Not so many guys actually give BJ's, so they're not able to advise on technique I guess. Anyway, the male response did pick up afterwards.

I heard on one of these late night programmes on cable tv (I guess my IPS must've been down that night) that porn stars use throat sprays with an antisceptic component to help them deepthroat. And making sure that the penis and the throat are well lubricated is important too.

I've never been deepthroated, so anyone who wants to practice, call me ;-)

TYWD

PS - spit or swallow. I guess if you spit, you're saying that you don't like it ... and by extension, him.

PPS - guys - drink/eat fruit - avoid red meat and coffee and the like. The theory is, if you taste nice, they'll be keener.

[MrDom]

here is something that was sent too my pet by one of her friends and she sent too me read and have fun.



How to give a proper world class BJ....

The cock is not a complicated thing. Stroke here, lick there, suck
here, and don't forget to fucking close your eyes when he cums (that
shit stings, asshole). Although giving a blowjob isn't complicated,
it ain't easy either, especially if you want to go down in his memory
as the best goddamn head he ever had–and I mean when he hears your
name or your favorite fuck me song five years later he gets a distant
goofy look in his eyes and a little bit of a hard-on which he then
has to explain to his now-wife.

There's a process here. Years of cock-sucking research have gone into
this. Years. RESPECT THE YEARS.

The key to good head is to mix it up. Keep him guessing what's coming
next. Granted there are many types of blowjobs: the one-minute
quickie (good for commercial breaks during the football game), the
loving head (long and slow and a bit of schmoopie talk), dirty-whore
head (fast, deep, hard and dirty), S&M head (biting, grabbing him by
the balls, "you'll do what I say, you hear me, you prick?"; or he
grabs your hair, forces your head down, "you'll suck my cock and
you'll like it, bitch" (mmmm… sooo hot), but what I'm aiming for here
is the looong head (which in many cases only translates into ten
minutes) that will have him whimpering, begging, and calling my name
when I finally let him cum.

My method involves teasing the poor bastard right until he's about to
blow his load–and then pull back. Build up, pull back, build up, pull
back, each time building up a little more than the time before. All
the build-ups lead to a huge blow-out. He may hate you a little each
time you do that, but he won't give a fuck in the end.

Note: this post is not comprehensive. There are many more little
tricks and techniques, but I'm writing this in one night and my left
hand is already exhausted from masturbating.

Another note: you know there's no actual blowing in a blowjob, right?
Don't they teach you anything in high school?

After paying due attention to his balls (DO NOT UNDERESTIMATE THE
ORGASM-INDUCING POWER OF THE BALLS), it's time to work your way
toward Three-Point Contact. Before I go into detail, I want you to
keep the following "mix it up" styles in mind: fast vs slow, deep vs
shallow, long strokes vs short strokes, and consistent vs varied
rhythm.

FIRST POINT OF CONTACT: hand

One hand, whichever one is the easiest to control and has the most
endurance. Typically but not always the hand that you write with.
Clasp it around the base of the shaft and begin stroking up and down,
slowly at first and then gradually increasing speed.

I'd like to take this time to point out that manicured fingernails
look super hot when wrapped around a hard cock. I'm no girly-girl,
but I know the power of vixen-red nails. Especially since I've now
been on the receiving end of a glorious set of painted nails. WOW.
They look even hotter going in and out of pussy. And I don't mean
masturbating. But for fuckssake, don't have those super long pointy
these-are-made- for-choking- you acrylic fingernails. Those things are
scary. I wouldn't want a set of those anywhere near my penis. –
shudders–

Don't pump away on dick like it's a chore. It is not a chore, IT IS A
PRIVILEGE. You should be so lucky to have a dick standing up to say
hello. Show him that you love having his dick in your hand. Get up
close where you can see everything. If he's lying down, stroke his
dick up and down while your face is directly behind it so he can see
your hands, his cock, and your wicked smile all right there.

Every once in a while pull back to concentrate on a different area.
The head and the frenulum (the tight little bit of skin on the
underside of the head) are the most sensitive areas of the dick. Work
this. Work this hard. Lightly circle the ridge of the head with your
finger tip (your manicured fingertip). Tickle the frenulum ever so
lightly (the sensitivity can work against you if you've gone hard
faster than he was ready for).

Bonus points if while you're stroking him you're giving yourself a
little hand-action.

SECOND POINT OF CONTACT: mouth

Just because the mouth is coming in, it does not mean your hand is
done. Nuh uh. We're building up, not making substitutions. No matter
how good you are with your hand, the mouth is better. It simulates
the cock by virtue of being warm and wet. And besides that, it's
fucking sexy as hell to see your dick in a girl's mouth, to see her
taking it all in and wanting more. Remember the sex eyes? Make sex
eyes. Although if you love what you're doing, the eyes will show it
without you having to even think about it.

Pull back from his dick slowly, with your hand caressing the top as
you pull away. Squeeze the tip of the head until you see a little
drop of pre-cum. If this is your thing and you know it's safe, wipe
the pre-cum up with your fingertip, look directly into his eyes, arch
your back, grin like the cock-loving girl you are, and lick it off
your finger.

Once his eyes have popped back into their sockets and he realizes you
are for real, it's time to bring out your best stuff. Bite your lower
lip and give him a naughty grin. Crouch down so you're hovering over
or next to his dick. Starting at the base, lick the shaft ever-so-
very-slowly with the tip of your tongue. End at the head with a
little flourish of the tongue. Make eye contact. By this point he
should be able to read your dirty dirty mind through your eyes.

Go back down on the other side, with your tongue stretched out so he
has the full luscious view. Come back up along the top, still slow,
then bring your hand back in. Clasp the base of the shaft with your
hand, put your head down in the position to begin sucking, but just
before you do, look up at him–

Have you noticed I'm being totally obnoxious about the eyes? THAT'S
BECAUSE GIVING SEX EYES IS THE HOTTEST AND MOST UNDER-UTILIZED THING
YOU CAN DO. SO WORK IT, GODDAMNIT. Flirt with your eyes, tease with
your eyes, fuck with your eyes, take him in with your eyes.

–now dive in. You've been moving slow up to this point, so diving in
with a visible hunger is a powerful contrast. Since his dick is
mostly dry, take in a couple inches and run your tongue down the
shaft to give it a little lubricant.

On the second run, take in as much of his cock as you can. The best
way to do this depends on the proper positioning of your head/throat
relative to his dick. For what I'm outlining in this post, the best
body position is with him lying down and you kneeling so you can
extend/crouch over him. You have to support yourself fully with your
legs, because soon both your hands are going to be busy. If your head
is directly over his dick (use your hand to hold it straight up into
your mouth), it's your best shot to take in all of the average-sized
cock. If you have a bad reflex.. practice? I don't really know what
to say. I was born to suck dick, so I've never had much of a gag
reflex. If it makes you uncomfortable, go slow and try to relax.
Being tense is NOT what you need to be right now.

To begin the licking and sucking, keep your shoulders steady and move
your head with the neck only. As you get going, let your body follow
the sex vibe. Kneel so that you lift up your hips to grind in the
air. Arch your back and roll your ass around in small circles. Don't
think about it too much… just let your body do what it feels inclined
to do. There's a hard cock in your mouth. Enjoy it.

What to do with the tongue. At the beginning it's easiest to place it
underneath the cock as you take it in. Don't let the tongue just BE
there, occupying space in your mouth. Press it up against the shaft.
Once you get going, lick side to side with your tongue while sucking
up and down. Lick all around. Meanwhile you can bring in the hand as
needed for another source of pressure/sensation. Or to act as a
stopping point so you don't accidentally take in too much and summon
the gag reflex.

Meanwhile with the mouth, keep it in a tight ring around his cock
because they are yet another key contact in the blowjob. Just watch
it, because lips can be the first thing to cramp up.

The mix of textures, pressure, speed, rhythm–there' s so many options
to try out. You don't ever have to give the same blowjob twice if you
know how to mix it up.

THIRD POINT OF CONTACT: the other hand

This is why you need to be supporting yourself with knees/legs only.
One hand is on shaft, mouth is on dick, and the other hand is what
rounds this out as an all-round mind-blowing blowjob. While sucking
and pumping, bring in your other hand, which hopefully up until this
point has been keeping you nice and stimulated (masturbating, rubbing
between legs, pinching nipples).

Start by playing with the balls again. BOYS LIKE IT WHEN YOU PLAY
WITH THEIR BALLS. Especially while you're doing all the other stuff.
Lick them, strum against them with the tip of your tongue, juggle
lightly in your fingers, cup in your palm, whatever. Don't be rough,
they're very sensitive, although the degree depends on the guy. Keep
stroking his shaft with your hand and sucking on the head. You are
now in scoring position.

*BONUS* POINT OF CONTACT: exactly how good are you with your hands?

Time to hit the magic sweet spot. (No, as much as I love poking
something up a guy's ass, that's not what I'm referring to–not this
time).

After a minute or so, close your index finger and press it middle-
knuckle first into the tissue just underneath the balls. I'm not sure
what this is called (I don't think it's the same thing as the
perineum, because that's farther away), but it hits the interior base
of the shaft. If you apply pressure with your knuckle, according to
some guys it feels amazing. If you're really talented, you can apply
pressure with your knuckle or finger while continuing to fondle his
balls. Massage the spot gently while you massage the balls as well.
Not many people know about this magic spot, so it has a powerful
effect on those who are fortunate enough to experience it.

THE ENDING

If you don't want to swallow, then you can finish him off with hand
job only, or suck until the final thirty seconds and then switch to
manual. Just watch your eyes!! Cum in contacts = OW MOTHERFUCKER.
Most guys are understanding about not wanting to take them in your
mouth, whether for personal or health reasons. If you still want to
finish with a flourish, you can pull my favorite porn star move of
letting him ejaculate on your stomach or breasts. I think it's fun,
but lots of people seem to think it's degrading. I don't care. I like
it.

Don't ever take it in your mouth and then spit it out. That's just
rude. If you don't want it in the first place, fucking say so.

Note on taste: what the guy eats and drinks beforehand directly
corresponds to the taste of his cum. Drinking a lot of beer (a lot,
not just a two) beforehand leaves a NASTY taste. That is my only icky
memory of a blowjob. In general, the healthier the food he eats the
better (less bad, whatever) it tastes. Fruit and fruit juice has the
best influence for a non-offensive taste. Let me just say again:
being able to somewhat deep-throat means you never have to worry
about taste.

If you're comfortable swallowing, you can avoid the taste by taking
him in as deep as you can right when he cums. That gets it past the
taste buds. If you know the guy well enough to know his "tells" for
when he's on the verge of cumming, that makes it a lot easier to time
your technique. If this is a new guy, then you may need him to give
you some indication or ten-second warning. Guys: this is why MOANING,
or, you know, SPEAKING like EVER during sex is beneficial. Why are
guys always so fucking quiet? BLEH. Get over it.

When it's coming down to the finale, I like to finish hard. Up until
the last couple seconds, going deep and fast helps the intensity. At
the very end, take in as much of his dick as you can, ideally enough
so that the head is pressed against the back of your mouth. The extra
bit of pressure blows his mind–and wad. Continue licking the
underside of the shaft with your tongue with as much pressure as the
tongue has left in it. In the final second or two, move your head up
and down just enough so that the tip of his dick rubs against the
back/roof of your mouth.

As he cums, hold on. DON'T BREAK THE SEAL. That can make for a big
sticky mess. Keep your mouth closed tightly around his cock until
you're sure he's done, which can take as long as ten seconds. When
you hear the post-orgasm sigh, slowly retreat. Keep the seal around
his cock as you pull away, and as you get toward the tip use your
tongue to scoop up the cum in your mouth so it doesn't dribble out
your mouth. Although a single drop of cum can be damn hot, if you
lick it up with the tip of your tongue and then give your final
naughty and self-satisfied grin.

Still Need More.. PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE to get better.



MrDom

[ThisYouWillDo]

... porn stars use throat sprays with an antisceptic component ...

I meant anaesthetic component, of course - but no-one seemed to notice.

TYWD

[Isabelle90]

I meant anaesthetic component, of course - but no-one seemed to notice.

TYWD

We knew what you meant! No worries!!

[tessa]

I was too busy trying to figure out who took all those notes. It definitely wasn't me as my hands were wrapped around a much different type shaft than the one used to pen all those luscious words.

Throat spray as anaesthetic before? Why??? And miss all that delicious pain of a hard cock pushing down into a tight throat??

Now afterwards, when all the delicious has been replaced by no-endorphins-post-euphoria, makes a little more sense to me.

Fun thread.

[Logic1]

here is something that was sent too my pet by one of her friends and she sent too me read and have fun.



How to give a proper world class BJ....

The cock is not a complicated thing. Stroke here, lick there, suck
here, and don't forget to fucking close your eyes when he cums (that
shit stings, asshole). Although giving a blowjob isn't complicated,
it ain't easy either, especially if you want to go down in his memory
as the best goddamn head he ever had–and I mean when he hears your
name or your favorite fuck me song five years later he gets a distant
goofy look in his eyes and a little bit of a hard-on which he then
has to explain to his now-wife.

There's a process here. Years of cock-sucking research have gone into
this. Years. RESPECT THE YEARS.

The key to good head is to mix it up. Keep him guessing what's coming
next. Granted there are many types of blowjobs: the one-minute
quickie (good for commercial breaks during the football game), the
loving head (long and slow and a bit of schmoopie talk), dirty-whore
head (fast, deep, hard and dirty), S&M head (biting, grabbing him by
the balls, "you'll do what I say, you hear me, you prick?"; or he
grabs your hair, forces your head down, "you'll suck my cock and
you'll like it, bitch" (mmmm… sooo hot), but what I'm aiming for here
is the looong head (which in many cases only translates into ten
minutes) that will have him whimpering, begging, and calling my name
when I finally let him cum.

My method involves teasing the poor bastard right until he's about to
blow his load–and then pull back. Build up, pull back, build up, pull
back, each time building up a little more than the time before. All
the build-ups lead to a huge blow-out. He may hate you a little each
time you do that, but he won't give a fuck in the end.

Note: this post is not comprehensive. There are many more little
tricks and techniques, but I'm writing this in one night and my left
hand is already exhausted from masturbating.

Another note: you know there's no actual blowing in a blowjob, right?
Don't they teach you anything in high school?

After paying due attention to his balls (DO NOT UNDERESTIMATE THE
ORGASM-INDUCING POWER OF THE BALLS), it's time to work your way
toward Three-Point Contact. Before I go into detail, I want you to
keep the following "mix it up" styles in mind: fast vs slow, deep vs
shallow, long strokes vs short strokes, and consistent vs varied
rhythm.

FIRST POINT OF CONTACT: hand

One hand, whichever one is the easiest to control and has the most
endurance. Typically but not always the hand that you write with.
Clasp it around the base of the shaft and begin stroking up and down,
slowly at first and then gradually increasing speed.

I'd like to take this time to point out that manicured fingernails
look super hot when wrapped around a hard cock. I'm no girly-girl,
but I know the power of vixen-red nails. Especially since I've now
been on the receiving end of a glorious set of painted nails. WOW.
They look even hotter going in and out of pussy. And I don't mean
masturbating. But for fuckssake, don't have those super long pointy
these-are-made- for-choking- you acrylic fingernails. Those things are
scary. I wouldn't want a set of those anywhere near my penis. –
shudders–

Don't pump away on dick like it's a chore. It is not a chore, IT IS A
PRIVILEGE. You should be so lucky to have a dick standing up to say
hello. Show him that you love having his dick in your hand. Get up
close where you can see everything. If he's lying down, stroke his
dick up and down while your face is directly behind it so he can see
your hands, his cock, and your wicked smile all right there.

Every once in a while pull back to concentrate on a different area.
The head and the frenulum (the tight little bit of skin on the
underside of the head) are the most sensitive areas of the dick. Work
this. Work this hard. Lightly circle the ridge of the head with your
finger tip (your manicured fingertip). Tickle the frenulum ever so
lightly (the sensitivity can work against you if you've gone hard
faster than he was ready for).

Bonus points if while you're stroking him you're giving yourself a
little hand-action.

SECOND POINT OF CONTACT: mouth

Just because the mouth is coming in, it does not mean your hand is
done. Nuh uh. We're building up, not making substitutions. No matter
how good you are with your hand, the mouth is better. It simulates
the cock by virtue of being warm and wet. And besides that, it's
fucking sexy as hell to see your dick in a girl's mouth, to see her
taking it all in and wanting more. Remember the sex eyes? Make sex
eyes. Although if you love what you're doing, the eyes will show it
without you having to even think about it.

Pull back from his dick slowly, with your hand caressing the top as
you pull away. Squeeze the tip of the head until you see a little
drop of pre-cum. If this is your thing and you know it's safe, wipe
the pre-cum up with your fingertip, look directly into his eyes, arch
your back, grin like the cock-loving girl you are, and lick it off
your finger.

Once his eyes have popped back into their sockets and he realizes you
are for real, it's time to bring out your best stuff. Bite your lower
lip and give him a naughty grin. Crouch down so you're hovering over
or next to his dick. Starting at the base, lick the shaft ever-so-
very-slowly with the tip of your tongue. End at the head with a
little flourish of the tongue. Make eye contact. By this point he
should be able to read your dirty dirty mind through your eyes.

Go back down on the other side, with your tongue stretched out so he
has the full luscious view. Come back up along the top, still slow,
then bring your hand back in. Clasp the base of the shaft with your
hand, put your head down in the position to begin sucking, but just
before you do, look up at him–

Have you noticed I'm being totally obnoxious about the eyes? THAT'S
BECAUSE GIVING SEX EYES IS THE HOTTEST AND MOST UNDER-UTILIZED THING
YOU CAN DO. SO WORK IT, GODDAMNIT. Flirt with your eyes, tease with
your eyes, fuck with your eyes, take him in with your eyes.

–now dive in. You've been moving slow up to this point, so diving in
with a visible hunger is a powerful contrast. Since his dick is
mostly dry, take in a couple inches and run your tongue down the
shaft to give it a little lubricant.

On the second run, take in as much of his cock as you can. The best
way to do this depends on the proper positioning of your head/throat
relative to his dick. For what I'm outlining in this post, the best
body position is with him lying down and you kneeling so you can
extend/crouch over him. You have to support yourself fully with your
legs, because soon both your hands are going to be busy. If your head
is directly over his dick (use your hand to hold it straight up into
your mouth), it's your best shot to take in all of the average-sized
cock. If you have a bad reflex.. practice? I don't really know what
to say. I was born to suck dick, so I've never had much of a gag
reflex. If it makes you uncomfortable, go slow and try to relax.
Being tense is NOT what you need to be right now.

To begin the licking and sucking, keep your shoulders steady and move
your head with the neck only. As you get going, let your body follow
the sex vibe. Kneel so that you lift up your hips to grind in the
air. Arch your back and roll your ass around in small circles. Don't
think about it too much… just let your body do what it feels inclined
to do. There's a hard cock in your mouth. Enjoy it.

What to do with the tongue. At the beginning it's easiest to place it
underneath the cock as you take it in. Don't let the tongue just BE
there, occupying space in your mouth. Press it up against the shaft.
Once you get going, lick side to side with your tongue while sucking
up and down. Lick all around. Meanwhile you can bring in the hand as
needed for another source of pressure/sensation. Or to act as a
stopping point so you don't accidentally take in too much and summon
the gag reflex.

Meanwhile with the mouth, keep it in a tight ring around his cock
because they are yet another key contact in the blowjob. Just watch
it, because lips can be the first thing to cramp up.

The mix of textures, pressure, speed, rhythm–there' s so many options
to try out. You don't ever have to give the same blowjob twice if you
know how to mix it up.

THIRD POINT OF CONTACT: the other hand

This is why you need to be supporting yourself with knees/legs only.
One hand is on shaft, mouth is on dick, and the other hand is what
rounds this out as an all-round mind-blowing blowjob. While sucking
and pumping, bring in your other hand, which hopefully up until this
point has been keeping you nice and stimulated (masturbating, rubbing
between legs, pinching nipples).

Start by playing with the balls again. BOYS LIKE IT WHEN YOU PLAY
WITH THEIR BALLS. Especially while you're doing all the other stuff.
Lick them, strum against them with the tip of your tongue, juggle
lightly in your fingers, cup in your palm, whatever. Don't be rough,
they're very sensitive, although the degree depends on the guy. Keep
stroking his shaft with your hand and sucking on the head. You are
now in scoring position.

*BONUS* POINT OF CONTACT: exactly how good are you with your hands?

Time to hit the magic sweet spot. (No, as much as I love poking
something up a guy's ass, that's not what I'm referring to–not this
time).

After a minute or so, close your index finger and press it middle-
knuckle first into the tissue just underneath the balls. I'm not sure
what this is called (I don't think it's the same thing as the
perineum, because that's farther away), but it hits the interior base
of the shaft. If you apply pressure with your knuckle, according to
some guys it feels amazing. If you're really talented, you can apply
pressure with your knuckle or finger while continuing to fondle his
balls. Massage the spot gently while you massage the balls as well.
Not many people know about this magic spot, so it has a powerful
effect on those who are fortunate enough to experience it.

THE ENDING

If you don't want to swallow, then you can finish him off with hand
job only, or suck until the final thirty seconds and then switch to
manual. Just watch your eyes!! Cum in contacts = OW MOTHERFUCKER.
Most guys are understanding about not wanting to take them in your
mouth, whether for personal or health reasons. If you still want to
finish with a flourish, you can pull my favorite porn star move of
letting him ejaculate on your stomach or breasts. I think it's fun,
but lots of people seem to think it's degrading. I don't care. I like
it.

Don't ever take it in your mouth and then spit it out. That's just
rude. If you don't want it in the first place, fucking say so.

Note on taste: what the guy eats and drinks beforehand directly
corresponds to the taste of his cum. Drinking a lot of beer (a lot,
not just a two) beforehand leaves a NASTY taste. That is my only icky
memory of a blowjob. In general, the healthier the food he eats the
better (less bad, whatever) it tastes. Fruit and fruit juice has the
best influence for a non-offensive taste. Let me just say again:
being able to somewhat deep-throat means you never have to worry
about taste.

If you're comfortable swallowing, you can avoid the taste by taking
him in as deep as you can right when he cums. That gets it past the
taste buds. If you know the guy well enough to know his "tells" for
when he's on the verge of cumming, that makes it a lot easier to time
your technique. If this is a new guy, then you may need him to give
you some indication or ten-second warning. Guys: this is why MOANING,
or, you know, SPEAKING like EVER during sex is beneficial. Why are
guys always so fucking quiet? BLEH. Get over it.

When it's coming down to the finale, I like to finish hard. Up until
the last couple seconds, going deep and fast helps the intensity. At
the very end, take in as much of his dick as you can, ideally enough
so that the head is pressed against the back of your mouth. The extra
bit of pressure blows his mind–and wad. Continue licking the
underside of the shaft with your tongue with as much pressure as the
tongue has left in it. In the final second or two, move your head up
and down just enough so that the tip of his dick rubs against the
back/roof of your mouth.

As he cums, hold on. DON'T BREAK THE SEAL. That can make for a big
sticky mess. Keep your mouth closed tightly around his cock until
you're sure he's done, which can take as long as ten seconds. When
you hear the post-orgasm sigh, slowly retreat. Keep the seal around
his cock as you pull away, and as you get toward the tip use your
tongue to scoop up the cum in your mouth so it doesn't dribble out
your mouth. Although a single drop of cum can be damn hot, if you
lick it up with the tip of your tongue and then give your final
naughty and self-satisfied grin.

Still Need More.. PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE to get better.



MrDom

wewt that was one comprehensive guide to deep throating that I just had to bump.

I would add that with love and practice practically anybody can be good at it.