How to give the BEST blow job?

[JohnZ]

some times a picture is worth a 1,000 words.


But to me - I need to fee the woman's breasts between my thighs and pushed up at my balls -- that is a sensual feeling for me.

I have only cum once from receiving head. My wife thinks that my cock might not be as sensative as most men. Is there a possibility that when I was having my cercumsision when I was a boy -that some nerve endings were cut? I have no problem keeping my erection - but it takes me being "inside" to have me cum.

My own thoughts on this is that it might be a control thing with me. I feel like when I am receiving head - I am the one receiving - not doing - and by not "doing" I am not in control -- as a Dom - I like to be in control.

anyway - those are some of my thoughts.

John

[learningtopleez]

I have only cum once from receiving head. My wife thinks that my cock might not be as sensative as most men. Is there a possibility that when I was having my cercumsision when I was a boy -that some nerve endings were cut? I have no problem keeping my erection - but it takes me being "inside" to have me cum.

My own thoughts on this is that it might be a control thing with me. I feel like when I am receiving head - I am the one receiving - not doing - and by not "doing" I am not in control -- as a Dom - I like to be in control.

John

John...I am not positive about the nerve endings being cut during circumcision, but it makes sense. I have read and heard that men w/o circumcisions have more feeling...so I guess it is possible.

As for never having cum but once from receiving head....Max was sort of like that. The first time I gave him a bj....nothing...nada...so I'm thinking to myself....well, I suck at this and not in a good way! But he explained that it is very difficult for him to cum while getting a bj. But on my next visit, he had abstained from masturbating for about three days...plus he gave me incentive...I couldn't cum until I made him cum! Btw...he told me this after he already had me squirming from oral! So I proceeded to give him the best bj I had ever given. Ya know how sometimes...the rhythm of your hands and your mouth just come together perfectly?? Well the ladies probably get this! So anyway....it worked! And I got two rewards that day!

I am sure that you may have already tried this...but I thought I would throw in my 2 cents!

[Nikita]

Posted by JohnZ: My own thoughts on this is that it might be a control thing with me. I feel like when I am receiving head - I am the one receiving - not doing - and by not "doing" I am not in control -- as a Dom - I like to be in control.

Not that the title of this post has anything to do with the subject, butt, it triggered the thought of circular thinking. John, both your statements point to personal 'head games'. (That phrase wasn't intentional, but hey, it worked out that way. )

And that is what orgasm is anyway, a head game. Women have that same inner dialogue that eventually leads them to give up or die trying to cum. But their dialogue runs along the lines of "if I enjoy this, he'll think I'm a slut" or the usual "good girls don't cum from oral sex." Most of the soccer moms I know look like they gave up. I NEVER give up... and glad I still don't!

(Anyway, thought I'd give you a little insight into thinking of women in the Bible Belt)

I have no problem keeping my erection - but it takes me being "inside" to have me cum.

See! It is a head game with yourself. Personally, I don't believe in your theory of 'not being in control,' as a possible reason for not reaching orgasm with a bj. The silent way you do orgasm has to do with your mind.

I'm with LTP, whose 2 cents is worth 4 bits, then 6 bits, and finally, a whole dollar. She wisely hinted that a little abstention accompanied frustration will quickly cure you of any hesitancy about cumming from a bj on that special person's lips.

Nikita

[JohnZ]

I'm with LTP, whose 2 cents is worth 4 bits, then 6 bits, and finally, a whole dollar. She wisely hinted that a little abstention accompanied frustration will quickly cure you of any hesitancy about cumming from a bj on that special person's lips.

Nikita

Well I will agree that it is most likely a "head game" - it is all in my head (though do not discount the control thing - since that is a head game in itself - for who is ever in control really?)

As for the abstention - that theory has been tested to no avail. -- But I will say - the one time that I did come from a BJ - it was from my lovely wife, when she was determined to make me cum. She kept at it -- to take me over the threshold. Unfortuantly I get to the point normally- but do not crest. (so it can be done, I just have not have had the patient partner, though my wife's jaw did hurt from the time she spent on me that time, and has not rallied that kind of desire again - I guess it was something to check off her list - and then - not worry about it any more.)

Thanks for the feedback -

John

[somewriter]

I have a spare moment or two so I thought I'd add my thoughts to this discussion, trying to address various points I've picked up in the other threads.

First-up, on the subject of deepthroating. I agree that for men it is not the be-all and end-all of blow job sensations - it is good, but it is not the best that can be done. However, as we all know, the mind is the main erogenous zone and I can't held but be turned on by the knowledge that a girl is close to choking on my cock which is filling her mouth.

Jaeangel - five inches isn't that small - I imagine it's still hard to get it all in. Between the regular blow-jobs, the handcuffs for the purpose, and your offer of anal, you get high marks from me!

Anyway, mouth plus hand covering the rest of the shaft is a good way to go, combined movement of the two. It is quite rare that I come from only contact with her mouth - I need the firm grip of a hand as well to finish me off, might just be me though! However, if I'm being dom and go for a long face-fucking, that can turn me on enough to do the trick.

Continuing with the all-important-mind theme, there are two accompaniments to a blow-job that really do it for me (especially when I'm sub and tied up). One is teasing; tempting me with the promise of a blow job at first, but then making me wait, and beginning slowly. The other is facesitting - with or without blindfold and/or gag, the smell (and perhaps sight and taste) of a woman that I cannot escape from is all the extra arousal I could ever need. Do the other guys agree on the last point, or am I isolated in that view?

[MrJerseyGuy]

Guy walks into a bar and orders a shot of Jack Daniels. He follows it up with another and another until his 6th.

The bartender finally walks over to the customer and asks "Are you celebrating something???"

The guy replies "My first blow job."

Bartender says, "OH!!! Congradulations, let me buy your next shot!"

The man thinks for a second and says, "Nah...if the first 6 didn't get that taste out of my mouth nothing will."

[learningtopleez]

ROFLMAO!! Thanks MrJerseyGuy! I needed that!

[pejanon]

some times a picture is worth a 1,000 words.


I have only cum once from receiving head. My wife thinks that my cock might not be as sensative as most men. Is there a possibility that when I was having my cercumsision when I was a boy -that some nerve endings were cut? I have no problem keeping my erection - but it takes me being "inside" to have me cum.

My own thoughts on this is that it might be a control thing with me. I feel like when I am receiving head - I am the one receiving - not doing - and by not "doing" I am not in control -- as a Dom - I like to be in control.

anyway - those are some of my thoughts.

John

Nerve ending cut!? No, as far as I know, Supposedy the nerve endinging get desensitized on exposed glans - possiby a myth too.

I will go with the control factor - very powerfull. I can cum but tend to shy away from it. I see it more as a reward I like to give for great effort.

Deepthoating is for me more metnal dominat thing then great plasur - at last I haven't receved one yet that was pure pleasure ... hmmm


uncut Pej

[learningtopleez]

I haven't receved one yet that was pure pleasure ... hmmm
uncut Pej

I am soooo NOT going there!! But man do I wanna!

[pejanon]

I am soooo NOT going there!! But man do I wanna!

NOT?


wanna?


there are ways of making pipe dreams come true...
Then - there are OTHER ways.... of making it treu


P

[charlestudor]

NOT?


wanna?


there are ways of making pipe dreams come true...
Then - there are OTHER ways.... of making it treu


P

"pipe dreams?" -- maybe this is what i should call it when i close my eyes, and visualize a beautiful woman wrapping her lips around my cock, as i inevitably have to resort to getting myself off.

ct

[OttifantSir]

I have only cum once from receiving head. My wife thinks that my cock might not be as sensative as most men. Is there a possibility that when I was having my cercumsision when I was a boy -that some nerve endings were cut? I have no problem keeping my erection - but it takes me being "inside" to have me cum.

John

Well, a study I read about a few years back said that un-circumcised men have 8 layers of skin on the tip of the cock, in general. While circumsised men have 14 layers of skin in general. Your cock-head isn't anatomically much different from your fingers and what happens when you do something too much? You get calluses. That's what happens. So, no cut nerve-endings, just a bit more skin to get through to those nerves.