In my sexual ethics class (yeah, university rocks) I'm writing a research paper on D/s relationships.

I've got a fair bit of academic writing, lots of doctors and professors saying what they think is going on, but I badly need more of the 'lived experience' as my prof is so fond of saying.

So I'm turning to all you lovely forumites to help me out. I would like you to tell me what you get out of D/s (not SM, I'm not looking at the pain aspects so much), what it means to you, pros and cons... stuff like that. Anything, really.
Anything from the lifestyle 24/7 type relationships, to D/s as kinky sex.

I will assume that anything you post here I can quote, unless you tell me otherwise, all quotes will be anonymous in the paper, and it's unlikely that anyone except my prof will read it anyways.
If you want, you can pm me with anything as well.

Also lovely would be any advice on websites etc. where I can find less academic, but not totally flaky descriptions of power exchange relationships.

thank you all greatly in advance!