I must admit that my b/f and I do not always effectively communicate what we want and what we need.
I out myself to him, regarding BDSM and D/s, a little at a time.
We discuss very little, and eventually I become frustrated and withdraw from him entirely. I start to create my own little world of self pity, seeing that we are very close to each other, but these issues need to be addressed before the relationship really starts to falter.
He is very aware that I am interested in BDSM, but fails to understand my submisssive needs.

In one frustrating moment, I tried to explain about my submissiveness, and that there are aspects to it, that he needs to understand.
He has tried to do things for me, involving a little bit of play, but also stated that he is nervous about demeaning me somehow.

I know that I have to force the issue in forcing him to communicate.
My biggest fear right now, is that he is complying with my wishes and desires, only because he fears that he will lose me if he does not try to make me happy.
I don't know how I can get him to open up and tell me what he is thinking.
Has anyone had a similar problem, and or adivce as to how I need to proceed so I do not have to worry that he is only going through the motions just to appease me.