Coming to Terms

[Pandora's Box]

This is based off a thought that just cruised by my mind as a result of some things I've been going through lately.

I've been into bdsm for about 2 years or so now and I feel much more comfortable and secure with myself as a submissive than I ever have before. There were times when I just couldn't come to grips with being a submissive. Or even wanting to be one. It was a hard journey for me. As it is, I imagine, for most if not all.

But my question is... do you think it is harder for submissives to come to terms with being a submissive or for dominants to come to terms with being a dominant?

I'm not so sure myself. Granted our general culture seems to value the dominant traits more, but that doesn't necessarily mean it's easier. Also, does gender affect the difficulty of the journey?

Thoughts?