Wimps?

[Alex Bragi]

How many of your men out there crave to submit, sexually, to a strong woman? And, how many others have this ridiculous notion that these men are some kind of breed of gamma males – wimps?

A man has to be very self-assured and confident of his own masculinity to submit to a physically weaker woman. Whether you're a male, or female, submissive it takes a hell of a load of strength to surrender, and a lot of courage to trust your fate to someone else.

I’d particularly like to see some of those macho males, who mock submissive men, allow a woman to take control, tie them down and whip them. Hey, all you himbos, how about it? No? No, takers? Do I hear hairy knees a knocking already? What’s the matter? Don’t you have the intestinal fortitude for it? Does the idea of it make you feel threatened? Let’s face it, maybe you just don’t have the balls for it?

But, seriously, why do these submissive men do it? Why do they crave this feminine domination. What’s in it for them? I mean, we are talking about the male species here, aren’t we?

Men who are sexually submissive, and I must emphasise that – sexually submissive, generally tend to have a lot of power and responsibility in their lives. They’re usually above average in education, intelligence, and income, holding high powered positions requiring them to make a lot of decisions, about a lot of things, a lot of the time.

Psychologists theorise that individuals who reject their own sexual needs, because of feeling of guilt that they’re out of the ‘norm’, often suffer greatly reduced self esteem, resulting in repression, depression, and oppression -- not so for the sexually submissive male.

It would seem that many of them find a certain freedom in allowing themselves to be enslaved to woman. Sure, it sounds like a complete and utter contradiction, doesn’t it? How can it be that they can find liberation in this kind of commitment? Well they do. During their time of submission they are free of decision making and responsibilities and in giving over control they are better able to serve the needs of the woman.

But, still, why do they do it? What enjoyment do they derive from this feeling of helplessness, and often humiliation?

Is it because of some an early childhood experience? E.g. All those times when his little penis rubbed on mummy’s stocking tops as she put him over her lap and spanked him? Perhaps it takes him back to when life was his life was uncomplicated and his pleasures simple. I imagine many men would like to return to that time in their lives, if only occasionally.

According to Freud women are naturally more masochistic than men. He argued that because of the risk of pregnancy, sex is more dangerous and guilt-ridden for women, and therefore women seek sexual punishment in order to alleviate their guilt over having sex. (Yes, an odd theory, particualrly by today's liberated ways and changing roles, I know.) So, do some men perhaps crave not so much domination, but the 'traditional' female role of being cared for by their spouse/partner, rather than the responsibility of carer? And, is it really an indication of being weaker to want to be cared for occasionally?

But it’s the pain that I find most intriguing, and I don’t really think there’s an answer to what make that, oh, so fine line between pleasure and pain so damned exciting! Pain, just plain pain is not. Pain suffered for someone else’s pleasure is. It’s an incredibly curious thing, isn’t it? It’s almost like in showing a willingness to serve and suffer it’s proof of desire and love, and therefore it's satisfying.

I think no matter which way you look at it sexual submission isn’t for weak hearted wimps.

Sexual submission is for those liberated of guilt and suppression pursuing their passion and needs.