The gears about this particular subject came to my head thanks to denesuri. So, ahead of time, thanks

I've recently come out to my husband that I was raped as a child by my brother. When I initially told my husband he was VERY hesitant about doing any bdsm sessions where I was the sub(we are both switches). I tried to remind him that he was also molested as a kid and I haven't stopped sessions with him. I read MANY responses to denesuri's thread in the Submissive's Couch labeled "victims of abuse support for victims". I than decided to share my story, which was the absolute first time I have told anyone aside from my husband. I'd like to thank everyone who responded to me. It was greatly appreciated.

That being said, my husband asked me if I thought doing a rape fantasy session(me as a sub) would help me cope. I think it would, but I haven't really been able to explain to myself or him why. He also asked if maybe thats why I enjoy being a Dom so much.

I'm not saying every person that is envolved in bdsm has been molested/raped/scarred. Hell, I might've always been a masochist/sadomasochist without my brothers help, but I was curious if other people think that maybe bdsm is a helpful outlit when dealing with the past? Do some subs feel a little better each session? Do some Dom's feel a little more in control of their past every session? Does anyone think they probably would/wouldn't be as passionate about bdsm if it hadn't been for that one incident or person that really hurt them both mentally and/or physically? Is anyone just as confused as me?

Any information would be GREATLY appreciated.