An odd title, but definitely something that has been on my mind since I've stumbled across the wonderful world of D/s, M/s and power exchange relationships. I'm not focusing on BDSM as it's my personal belief that BDSM doesn't necessarily have to be a part of a D/s, M/s relationships (although I truly enjoy that aspect).

I belong to at least four D/s & BDSM forums and also read quite a bit about the "lifestyle": Disclaimer, I know some hate the word lifestyle, but that's the only term I can think of. I apologize if the term is offensive.

The main thing that has drawn me to this lifestyle is the fact that I've always been submissive and appreciate the clearly defined roles within a relationship with a Dominant male. I'll do almost anything to please my Sir (hard limits notwithstanding). However, there's a heck of a lot of things that I'd not heard of or been exposed to that some Dominants enjoy (I've led a pretty sheltered life). I know that I have to find someone with the same core values and someone who will respect my limits. However, when I read these things, I'm thinking I may be a bit of a prude or out of my league. I'm not being judgmental as people can do whatever or whomever they please as it's none of my business, especially as I'm sure there are things I enjoy that people may think strange.

I'm willing to and have done things that I considered "soft limits" and I'd also like to (slowly) expand my limits, which I've done quite recently (yay). But sometimes I don't feel like I fit in because I don't do nor do I anticipate doing things that (I) consider extreme (nope, not gonna list those things as this post is not meant to offend anyone).

An experienced Dominant friend told me that being submissive can occur in any type of relationship, "vanilla", D/s, M/s. I've tried holding on to that but, I'm still unable to find my "footing".

I have a few Dominant and submissive friends I chat with and sometimes I'm in awe and somewhat intimidated by their relationships. It's almost as if I cannot imagine giving of my self to that extent or having that much trust in another (did I happen to mention my trust issues?).

I've had only one D/s relationship and we've been together a little over a year. We started off as Dom/sub, however, the lines blurred and it's morphed into more of Daddy/girl. My limits are rarely pushed, even the soft ones. I appreciate Him more than he will ever know, but I know once our relationship is over as it's of a somewhat "temporary" nature, I'm in trouble.

Basically, my question is: Have any of you guys ever felt this way?

I got lost rambling during my post and if anyone can make sense of what I've written, any thoughts, advice, yes....even criticism is welcome.

Thank you!!