hello all. I am matin, and i have a question i'm having difficulty even phrasing in my mind, so bear with me, please.

I am a new dom, and my partner is a somewhat more experienced sub. she has been somewhat traumatized by abuse and so we have been running into a stumbling block in our play. she wants to be both dominated and somewhat humiliated, but sometimes the humiliation or percieved degredation makes her flip out.

the question i think is what are some ways you all might suggest to convey to her a strong sense of being dominated without being humiliated or degraded.

i would say more bondage myself but physical limitations prevent a great deal of that.

the humiliation and degredation aspects of being dominated are both things she does want, but i want, for her sake, to make her totally comfortable being my sub before we ease into that.

i just don't know how.

thank you!