How many of us have heard words associated with what we do, such as "deviant", "abberant", "sick", "perverted", or worse? How many of us have wondered if what we do really is normal?

Well, let me tell you, you're just as normal as anyone else in this lifestyle and I'm here to tell you why.

The key here is the word lifestyle, which mean "A way or style of living that reflects the attitudes and values of a person or group." Since the BDSM/kink lifestyle is fairly widely-encompassing, our style of living and our values cover a wide range of subjects and ways of thinking.

By definition, that pretty much makes us normal. Normal, meaning "Conforming to or consisting of a pattern, process, or standard regarded as usual or typical".

So, if you look at this by definition, those of us involved in or participating in the BDSM lifesatyle are normal to one another. It's the vanillas that are deviants to us. Having normal, sex and not performing sodomy on one another? What's up with that?

Hell, half of all Americans own some kind of kink or fetish item (no kidding, it was on Canadian TV last week), so really a lot of the vanillas are a lot more normal than we might think.

So, don't think of yourself as being odd or different because you're attracted to kink. Just remember, you're as normal as the rest of us.