This question arises out of a conversation I had the other day with an experienced submissive...

For those who were vanilla and came to this life later on - do you think it is harder to go from vanilla to top or from top to dominant? I guess I should define what I mean by these terms - top: able to deliver pain/pleasure in a play situation and enjoy it - dominant: getting off on the control aspect of the situation, perhaps extending their dominance further into everyday life with their submissive.

Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts!