Successful Women Make Their Male Partners Insecure, Researchers Say

[Thorne]

I think there probably are some men who would get upset by their S/O having more success than themselves. There are probably some women who would feel the same thing. I also don't think those kinds of people are limited only to one person, or even one sex. Many of them would probably feel the same way about ANYONE who seemed to do better than themselves. Think of that guy in the office who stopped talking to you when you got a promotion, or that woman who always seems to be trying to one-up you at meetings. I think some people are just wired to be overly competitive, and don't like coming in second. And some of them will do almost anything to get to the top. Steroids in sports, undermining coworkers, even going so far as to damage a neighbor's property to make their own look better.

[thir]

I think there probably are some men who would get upset by their S/O having more success than themselves. There are probably some women who would feel the same thing. I also don't think those kinds of people are limited only to one person, or even one sex. Many of them would probably feel the same way about ANYONE who seemed to do better than themselves. Think of that guy in the office who stopped talking to you when you got a promotion, or that woman who always seems to be trying to one-up you at meetings. I think some people are just wired to be overly competitive, and don't like coming in second. And some of them will do almost anything to get to the top. Steroids in sports, undermining coworkers, even going so far as to damage a neighbor's property to make their own look better.

That is pretty much how I see it too..Yet I was wondering if this maybe had something to do with the general discussion about men's rights, and how boys do bad at school and drop out of university, and divorce problems, and children in divorces. A sort of general feeling that women have gone too far and men are being pushed out.

[Thorne]

Yet I was wondering if this maybe had something to do with the general discussion about men's rights, and how boys do bad at school and drop out of university, and divorce problems, and children in divorces.

I think the problem is more that some men are having to take a long, hard look at themselves, and they don't necessarily like what they see. Screwing that drunk chick at the party? That's not proving you're a man, that's rape! Slapping your date around because she won't put out after you bought dinner? That doesn't make you a stud, it makes you a thug!

A sort of general feeling that women have gone too far and men are being pushed out.

They're being forced out of the back alleys and into the harsh light of reality. The big sports hero isn't being given a pass when he rapes the cheerleader anymore. The courts aren't defaulting to "She's a slut, so he's not guilty" anymore. The idea that men can't be held responsible if a woman dresses provocatively just isn't a good excuse anymore (if it ever was.) Men aren't being pushed out: they're just pissed that they have to let women in. Men are having to learn that the rest of the world doesn't revolve around whether they get laid tonight. And a lot of them don't like that.

[Mathius]

A sort of general feeling that women have gone too far and men are being pushed out.

In my opinion women aren't going too far, it is the fact that men don't know how to be men anymore. Men aren't the dominate partner anymore and just roll over.

[thir]

In my opinion women aren't going too far, it is the fact that men don't know how to be men anymore. Men aren't the dominate partner anymore and just roll over.

Different strokes for different folks, Mathius