Slides in to answer a question posed to Dom's....which might be considered bratty? Not sure. Anyway...you hit the nail on the head, there is no "wrong" it sounds like you are just meeting with people who are looking for a different challenge and way to fulfill themselves than you are! I know several Dom's who have said they like a sub with a little fight. Both so that they know she's not just rolling over and subbing, and also so they have a chance to prove they can handle her. I know several Doms who will not tolerate brat in the least and think it disrespectful. BDSM is not so different from vanilla relationships in that everyone is looking for something different. I'm sure you have friends where you think, "I wouldn't date, marry or give that guy the time of day" but he appears to make her happy. The same is true in BDSM. You have the qualities that will make a Dom very happy, it's just a matter of finding the right one.