Do you think a BDSM relationship often has a tendancy to be much more intense than a vanilla relationship, and if so, do you think this higher intensity affects how long it takes to get over that relationship?
BDSM relationships are more intense for BDSM people. But, overall, they're not any deeper or more significant than any other relationship basd upon a strong similarity, need, or connection (and that kind of stuff happens in all sorts of ways, shapes and forms in 'nilla land).