A question

[Zarine13]

I spoke to someone recently about their views on submission. They stated that a sub is a sub for a reason, to learn something and to evolve into a better being. I think that is a lot of it in a nutshell. Subs need 'training' and to 'reflect' and 'guidance' and so many other things according to a lot of people. Dominants on the other hand, are not viewed as needing all of this. A lot of people seem to think Doms come in this perfect package that needs no work or instruction.

Hence the many many more discussions about subs.

[Ozme52]

I spoke to someone recently about their views on submission. They stated that a sub is a sub for a reason, to learn something and to evolve into a better being. I think that is a lot of it in a nutshell. Subs need 'training' and to 'reflect' and 'guidance' and so many other things according to a lot of people. Dominants on the other hand, are not viewed as needing all of this. A lot of people seem to think Doms come in this perfect package that needs no work or instruction.

Hence the many many more discussions about subs.

Sort of biased, from the dominant perspective, and somewhat formulaic. I'd almost say, from the perspective of an online dominant with little or no life experience, vanilla or lifestyle.

Everyone learns, everyone trains, everyone grows. One of the nice things about D/s is we get to go on a journey with complementary goals together.

To answer thir's question, I think that there is an expectation that a dominant who shows weakness is somehow inadequate. So they, meaning we, tend not to share their doubts. They rarely talk about themselves. And they rarely call on other dominants for help for "competitive" reasons, as if they might lose their submissive(s) to predatory dominants.

And perhaps it's partly because we are an architype (sp) and we tend to solve our own problems and rarely question ourselves. I know I feel like I'm an open book, yet have never come online with an issue or concern.

I just mostly complain about not enough people coming out to meet me on my travels. LOL

[thir]

To answer thir's question, I think that there is an expectation that a dominant who shows weakness is somehow inadequate. So they, meaning we, tend not to share their doubts.

I believe you touch on something very important here. (A lot of) subs want their dom to be=perfect, or in other words, an icon, a statue, a stone top, not being able to be yourself, but adapting to the needs or demands of others.
See, that to me is the worst kind of topping from the bottom that there is, and the least talked about.

Comments, guys?

They rarely talk about themselves. And they rarely call on other dominants for help for "competitive" reasons, as if they might lose their submissive(s) to predatory dominants.

I do so hope that this is not true. But if it is, I can tell you that Dommes have more honour!