What makes a good sub?

[Scorpio'sWill2Power]

Mostly what I look to find within someone is a genuine
desire to know themselves and want to free themselves
from their own fears and inhibitions.

To grow and evolve into who they were meant to be
because they have found there is NO shame in being
who you really are!!!

All too often some feel out of place, unaccepted and keep
everything so bottled up within them they really don't know how
to be who they are on the inside.

To reach a true understanding about self is far greater at times
than even reaching an orgasm can be.

I look for trust as well, someone who knows in their heart
that a long journey made together is often less frightening
than having to go it alone.

I look for strength, maybe that which they have never thought
they possessed or only needed a reason to make it grow.

A true desire to want to be themselves and hope to know
through sharing that what they may have kept hidden
from others and even themselves at times has an equal
place in this thing we call life.

[Violenteer]

This is a question that can be answered differently by every master I would say.

I can only anser for myself.

A submissive in the most simple terms should be willing and able. Should in all actions make the master feel so. Should be able to anticipate needs. These can stem from lighting a ciggarette to a kiss on the cheek in times of need to the more dominant and subversive desires of the master.

There definately needs to be an emotional connection, and dare I say love. Most importantly trust. A submissive gives away a slice of autonomy and trust his/her master, and this is something not given lightly.

I have more. But wont go on!

Be good!

[her_Joe]

The connection is all well and good -- but that is needed in any partner or longterm realtionship type. A sub isn't necessarily that for me, and a good one is easy for me to describe, harder to recognize:

S/he is a challenge ... has to wrestle within themselves to submit in real life situations, and needs Me to pay attention and challenge him/her in return.

S/he is obedient ... the choice to submit is an action, not words.

S/he is docile and graceful ... though s/he is a challenge, acceptance and submission are achieved quietly, with dignity and respect for self and me.

For me, this is the difference between a good friend/date/mate and a good submissive. Others may, of course, disagree.

hJ

[babykat]

I read this several times over because it is something I hope I can find to be true.... especially this:

To reach a true understanding about self is far greater at times
than even reaching an orgasm can be.

I look for trust as well, someone who knows in their heart
that a long journey made together is often less frightening
than having to go it alone.

I look for strength, maybe that which they have never thought
they possessed or only needed a reason to make it grow.

Mostly what I look to find within someone is a genuine
desire to know themselves and want to free themselves
from their own fears and inhibitions.

To grow and evolve into who they were meant to be
because they have found there is NO shame in being
who you really are!!!

All too often some feel out of place, unaccepted and keep
everything so bottled up within them they really don't know how
to be who they are on the inside.

To reach a true understanding about self is far greater at times
than even reaching an orgasm can be.

I look for trust as well, someone who knows in their heart
that a long journey made together is often less frightening
than having to go it alone.

I look for strength, maybe that which they have never thought
they possessed or only needed a reason to make it grow.

A true desire to want to be themselves and hope to know
through sharing that what they may have kept hidden
from others and even themselves at times has an equal
place in this thing we call life.