Dear Denuseri, I am not going to start this old discussion up again. You have your ideas, others have theirs, and that is how it should be.

Only two comments re the thread start mail:

1) It is, IMO, better manners to give your views as your views, as you have done, rather than go this my-way-is-the-only-way that so many use on bad-mannered lists. Especially on a site like this, where many people are trying to find their own way to fulfilment. In main stream society they'd rather we were unhappy living their way, than happy living our own. We do not want to copy that attitude, I am sure! Nor can it be the object of a site like to this to say - as some do in the vanilla world - that you do not know what is good for you, and if you think you are happy living as you do you must be sick! I have always found that attitude arrogant beyond belief, and you find it in so many places, not least among the professions. Please let's not have that here! We are functional adults, we know damn well what we like, and what we do not like, what works for us, and what doesn't. Accept that.


2) MystressA, with due politeness I have to say that if, in any of the literature classes I have attended, a teacher had answered a question on literature with a lecture of that teacher's personal view of gender politics, I would have been baffled to say the least.