Iv'e talked with submissives, and played with submissives. The online experience is definitly not the same as real life. There is a deeper emotional exchange with the physical portion. Before I met my wife/submissive, I had some online dealings with submissive women. None of them did I find satisfactory. Once I did meet my wife, and we began to play. The undertanding and emotional exchange of her submission to me, and that she does it willinly as I yeild whatever item of pain or bondage I choose. Her safety in my hands. The experience is just not the same. Just for arguments sake, yes we did meet online.

So what I look for in a submissive is similar to what I look for if I were looking for a nilla mate. Compatibility, ability to communicate. Her initial speach towards me, her initial actions around me. Does she anticipate my needs, and if not, does she ask what I need or require? My wife did, and still does these things. I consider myself one of the luckiest people alive.

For you as the submissive, and your concerns if your meeting your Dom/me's needs. Ask yourself if your Dom/me is correcting your behaviour, or repeating themselves needlessly. If so, perhaps your not compatible in communication or in how you see your submission being played out. However, if the repeating or correcting is part of the relationship you both enjoy, then what your doing is exactly right for each other.

Enjoy!

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