Oz, I am absolutely positive you were being clear. I just gap out at times. My apologies.

Briballus that is a very good question that you ask. I wouldn't have thought of it. I don't believe he was pushing my limits. I think he is poly and was not willing to lose our relationship over it. Hoped he could figure it out.

I actually did put an end to the relationship immediately. So yes, it was a hard limit. I don't feel like I was in a power struggle, I feel like I made the right decision for me given the situation, and I made it.

I was using this posting as a means to verify that I wasn't missing an element. What element, I wasn't sure, but it is just in my nature to be ultra fair when making a decision that impacts on others. If you had disagreed with my having this as an issue it wouldn't have changed the outcome, but would have taught me that D/s was not my thing if poly was a given. I truly appreciate all of your opinions on this. It has me understanding D/s from more than one perspective. I very much thank each of you for taking time to respond with such thoughtfulness.