Thank you IDCrewDawg. Although we had not commited formally, he introduced me to BDSM. I am not entirely certain that I will continue down this road but will be posting and learning more for the next bit to see whether this is truly my slant. I learned a ton from him, and I am forever grateful as he had me realize that power can be a good thing - not just an abusive thing. He has been very good to me along the way and helped me tremendously throughout some issues that I have been dealing with. He has been a friend, a lover and a confidant. He deserves more than 'without warning' but I understand what you are saying.

I thank you all so much for your perspective. It has been so very helpful.