what makes a rubbish sub?

[Mistress Annabelle]

@ Arria:

Haha, exactly what I meant!
Maybe we were both heading at the same thing in the end, from different points of view.
I agree a poor dom(me) could do more damage than a sub, merely because the oppertunity is there, for the dominant. I think.

But I have run into quite a few subs which really were immature, and lazy. I suppose thats where I am coming from, as my personal experience has seen alot of rather wishywashy subs - partly my fault for trying to fix them...

"If a person cannot handle his/her own life, he/she should not even begin to think about having a relationship. "

Exactly! That particular sentiment should be told to every single person, ever. As I think thats where the basis of a lot of problems are in BDSM community at large - a few people haven't been able to manage their lives well, and are looking for someone to do it for them. I think this can actually be applied to some dom(me)s too - people really need to be in control of their lives before they look to hand over that control, or gain more.

[sidhewolf]

@ Arria:

"If a person cannot handle his/her own life, he/she should not even begin to think about having a relationship. "

Exactly! That particular sentiment should be told to every single person, ever. As I think thats where the basis of a lot of problems are in BDSM community at large - a few people haven't been able to manage their lives well, and are looking for someone to do it for them. I think this can actually be applied to some dom(me)s too - people really need to be in control of their lives before they look to hand over that control, or gain more.

Absolutely True I believe.

I've always said, and believed > One must have Power and Control in order to Give it. And Someone who has no Power and Control over themselves cannot Take mine.

Respectfully~Sidhewolf