are all Doms polyamorous?

[Hime]

so i guess no, not all doms are polyamorous, although i bet we all wish we were

I wish you all were, too!

Personally, I don't think of people who lie about how many partners they have as polyamorous -- I think of them as cheaters, i.e. examples of monogamy gone wrong. Being poly is about communicating and SHARING with multiple people. Lying isn't sharing.

For instance, if I have a pizza and you say "can I have a piece?" and I give you one, that's sharing. If I offer you a piece and I take it, that's sharing. If I look away for a second and you grab a piece and shove it in your mouth, that isn't sharing, it's stealing, even if I was going to offer it to you anyway.

[Lisais mine]

I wish you all were, too!

Personally, I don't think of people who lie about how many partners they have as polyamorous -- I think of them as cheaters, i.e. examples of monogamy gone wrong. Being poly is about communicating and SHARING with multiple people. Lying isn't sharing.

For instance, if I have a pizza and you say "can I have a piece?" and I give you one, that's sharing. If I offer you a piece and I take it, that's sharing. If I look away for a second and you grab a piece and shove it in your mouth, that isn't sharing, it's stealing, even if I was going to offer it to you anyway.

you are certianlly right- and I totally agree. I was married for 17 years, and we split up becaues she cheated. if she had come to me and said " i'm really hot for this guy- can i fuck him? do you mind?" I would have not had a problem. it was the liying and backstabbing that caused me to kick her out.

( funny aside? - when she was leaving, she tried to pack up her collar. I snatched it from her hands. she says- hey! that's mine! I said, no, i was letting you wear it. it belongs to me and you are not worthy..... I'll mail it to her new boyfriend on our wedding anniversary......)

[SubmissiveDoll]

( funny aside? - when she was leaving, she tried to pack up her collar. I snatched it from her hands. she says- hey! that's mine! I said, no, i was letting you wear it. it belongs to me and you are not worthy..... I'll mail it to her new boyfriend on our wedding anniversary......)

That may not be meant to be funny, but I certainly smiled. I firmly believe my collar belongs to my Master, not me. I'm allowed to wear it. If I want to continue wearing it, I must continue to deserve to wear it.

[voxelectronica]

For instance, if I have a pizza and you say "can I have a piece?" and I give you one, that's sharing. If I offer you a piece and I take it, that's sharing. If I look away for a second and you grab a piece and shove it in your mouth, that isn't sharing, it's stealing, even if I was going to offer it to you anyway.

great! now I want pizza!

[sinderella]

you know what, you guys? i am learning a lot...about this way of life, about people, and about myself. i understand that it is the keeping of secrets and the telling of lies that is truly hurtful, not how many submissives someone has, as long as all parties are aware of what is going on and accept it. thanks very much for your thoughts!