Submission is a gift, but I dislike the phrase immensely because it sounds just as conceited as dominants who require potential submissives to "earn" their attention. Excuse me? The only thing that has to be earned is trust and respect, and that goes for both sides. Every time I see a profile with either of these overtones, I just want to say, "Get over yourself already! You're not as special as you think you are!" *lol* It reminds me of that Beyonce song....don't you ever for a second get to thinking you're irreplaceable.

Most dictionaries define a gift as something given without payment in return. Submission does not quality as a gift according to the most popular definition because it's given in return for and expectation of dominance. There are definitely conditions attached to this "gift." It can and is taken away when these conditions are not met. The only other meaning of gift that can be used is "a thing given," which does not accurately represent the intricacies of a power exchange dynamic.

What I give to my dominant is not any more precious than what he gives to me, and considering the fact that there are fewer dominants than submissives, what he gives to me is probably in all actuality a rarer commodity than what I have to offer.