Quote Originally Posted by TomOfSweden View Post
There's many more things for him to figure out other than pleasing you.
Tom, I think I understand what you're trying to say.

I'm finally beginning to realize that for myself - it was hard at first to bite my tongue and not say what amounted to "more, more, more and now" on a practically daily basis. Knowing that he does want to please me and actually being patient enough to give him time to figure out what all this "BDSM stuff" means to him has paid off for me lately - rather than becoming the "dom of my dreams" he's becoming the dom that he really is. Rather than changing to meet my definition/expectations of a dom, I'm beginning to get the opportunity to change to meet his expectations of a submissive. It's really wonderful!