Quote Originally Posted by Alex Bragi View Post
Being a dominant doesn't mean you have inherent control over every submissive you meet. You must work to gain their trust and respect.

And finally, fine, give yourself a title of nobility, but remember you will still need to earn respect just like everyone else does.
Thank you for expressing it like that! I constantly get to hear I'm not a real sub or not a real whatever because I refuse to act very submissive before the man's demenour, intelligence, creativity etc. makes me want to submit to him.

Also for me, but that's more a feeling that something I could adequately put into words a Dom doesn't truely and actually enjoy inflicting pain or humiliation. If I get the feeling that is what he is all about I am so turned off!
How it is that sometimes he does both and has fun with it without that being the prime reason for enjoying himself... well I might need help about this point from an actual Dom.