Quote Originally Posted by azraelle
It goes way beyond simple wishful thinking on their part. Almost like they are (secretly) insecure in their masculinity?

Yeah. There's that.

And then there's the fact that about 75% of females involved in BDSM are submissive. Besides, he mentioned in his post that they had talked about tying her up or holding her down. If she had wanted to interject a preference to be dominant, I'm sure she could have mentioned it when they discussed it.

Of course, that part of the discussion might not have made it to this forum. Who knows?

As a guy who is dominant, it is a constant wonder to me that guys that think of themselves as "submissives" tend to want the girls they meet to be dominant. Perhaps it's wishful thinking that they will eventually run into the one-in-four that actually is.

P.S. There's a thread for new members to introduce themselves in General Talk. Perhaps you'd like to have a look at it and post one of your own?