Quote Originally Posted by Pandora's Box
This is based off a thought that just cruised by my mind as a result of some things I've been going through lately.

I've been into bdsm for about 2 years or so now and I feel much more comfortable and secure with myself as a submissive than I ever have before. There were times when I just couldn't come to grips with being a submissive. Or even wanting to be one. It was a hard journey for me. As it is, I imagine, for most if not all.

But my question is... do you think it is harder for submissives to come to terms with being a submissive or for dominants to come to terms with being a dominant?

I'm not so sure myself. Granted our general culture seems to value the dominant traits more, but that doesn't necessarily mean it's easier. Also, does gender affect the difficulty of the journey?

Thoughts?
Not to waffle about this, but my response would be "it depends". If you were raised to be submissive, as most kids who went to parochial schools seem to have been in the '40's and '50's, taking the dominant roll is VERY hard; speaking from my own experience. I've been in the middle of deciding a place for several years, unsure that I could BE a Dom because it wouldn't be 'nice'. Now I know that Dom is who I am, and that's for me.

Knowing others who are heavily into winning everything, being a sub has to be a major epiphany. But those folks need to realize there are different ways of winning: if being a sub makes you feel great and makes the Dom / Domme feel great, that's a win! Pleasing yourself and others is always a good thing, IMHO.