At the request of someone who shall remain nameless, I've looked back through this thread and picked out every allusion of Alex's that seems to pertain to conforming, norms or individuality.

"I mean, we are talking about the male species here, aren’t we?"

"Psychologists theorise that individuals who reject their own sexual needs, because of feeling of guilt that they’re out of the ‘norm’, often suffer greatly reduced self esteem, resulting in repression, depression, and oppression -- not so for the sexually submissive male." (you missed 'suppression')

"But it’s not just woman who have changed. Men are not longer shackled by their traditional and ego-driven gender/sexual identification -- and surely that’s a good thing."

"I would have to agree male submission does have less of a stigma these days, as do gays and lesbians, and many other minority groups as we evolve and become a more open-minded lot."

"Whether, or not men and women will ever be completely ‘equal’? I don’t think so. Personally, I think we are much too different psychologically. Obviously, very physically different too, and – Vi va la différence!"

"As for the 'two different types' - men and women being 'equal' – we just aren't are we? Never have been. Never will be. And personally, I like it that way."

"As a woman, I represent half of the human race. My body and mind function differently from men. And damn it, there’s just no question about it, I just love being a woman!"

"I embrace the differences between the sexes, but that doesn’t mean I’m ever likely to feel intellectually inferior or superior to men -- no way. And that doesn’t mean I’m can’t be, or that I’m not, very individual."

(by CSR) "But... if I take a long step back, life really would be more convenient if I were 'normal.'"

(response by Alex) "‘Normal’, what does that really mean? It means simply that you happen to belong to the largest, and therefore most dominate, group."

"It’s interesting that you say it would be easier if you were a Dom rather than a sub because I think that perhaps the exact opposite can be said of women. I suppose it’s because traditionally the man is seen as the aggressor, the physically stronger one...."

So, what does our aggrieved and put-upon reader draw from this exercise in cut-and-paste? My conclusion is that Alex does believe in 'norms' -- to be specific, two of them. In these examples she clearly demonstrates a belief in a normal man and a normal woman, but she also says that men (at least) who unnaturally conform to their norm suffer from a whole string of '-pression's, which seems to argue that, while she believes in the existence of these norms, she doesn't necessarily believe that they're good things.

Now, if that's settled, may we please return to debating Alex's questionable original premise that men who wish to be taken care of are sexually submissive? That seems to me to be more of a passive/aggressive trait, and I wouldn't think of a p/a person as being submissive, sexually or otherwise. And what does it have to do with sex at all? If it's any form of submission wouldn't it be psychological, rather than sexual? Honestly, you people, I can't believe you let THAT slide by!