You’ve raised some interesting points, and I like to be challenged to think outside my little square.

In vanilla sex, I have no problem being aggressive, dominant even, typically male, if you will. But when playtime rolls around, put a whip in my hand and I would get an immediate soft-on. I love BDSM, and I love to see a woman tied and punished, but I derive absolutely no pleasure from doing it myself.
I thought this was curious. I understand what you mean, I’m excited by seeing or reading about certain things that would never feel comfortable acting out. I guess it’s just good old-fashioned voyeurism.

I don't doubt that you got this information from a credible source. However, psychologists have been theorizing causes for sexual preference for years... and every few years the old theories get changed.
No, I didn’t get this from a ‘credible source’. This is pure conjecture, as is much of what I post in here, unless otherwise stated.

Remember when we all thought homosexuality was caused by bad parenting? How about the one that submissive females are like that only because they had been abused? Bull right? Well the same goes when people try to find environmental "reasons" for what turns me on.
Yes, I’m aware of those therories, and as far as I’m aware none has been proved or disproved, so with all due respect, I won’t go as far as saying they’re all ‘bull’, just yet.

Does that mean that if I change careers to ditch digger I will stop wanting my nipples tortured? Lol.. Right.
You're probably quite right, but I don’t really know. I feel that as much as anything ‘power’ is often a matter of perception. Maybe some ditch diggers feel they hold responsible positions? And maybe they do -- at work, home, socially or where ever?

You’ve got me thinking it was rather narrow-minded of me to spruik on about men in high powered and highly paid positions. Many people are in position of responsibility, but not all necessarily highly paid or overly educated. I have a friend who has cared for his sickly mother for years, it’s a huge commitment, and I’m sure he often feels weighted down by the responsibility.
As far as "macho" men looking down on sub males... in the real world this is really just vanilla males. Same ones who have weird ideas about BDSM in any form. As far as I've seen in the R/L BDSM community YKINMK means acceptance of everyone. All kinksters are on the "outside" so we don't judge each other.
I’m sure you’re right. My other half thinks I’m weird (but hopefully also wonderful) because I enjoy tying him down and giving it to him rough occasionally. I don’t go to munches or bdsm clubs, so obviously I’m not a part of any ‘community’. Amongst my (vanilla) peers, the mention of sexually submissive men/dominant women always draws sniggers and giggles, so that’s what I based my assumption on.

Once again, this applies to anyone. Change the pronouns and you could be talking about a submissive female. What about a submissive lesbian or gay man... the theory still works?
I can’t argue with that. Submissive males just happened to be the topic of this particular thread.

There is nothing humiliating about submission in a BDSM context. If a stranger walked up to me on the street and slapped me and told me to kneel I'd flip him/her the bird and walk away. Submission in my world is only by choice to the person I choose. Humiliation as a style of play, well that's another story, but not the same thing really IMO.
I think if a stranger walked up to you in the street and did anything of sexual nature, or anything that was not ‘socially acceptable’, you might react in much the same way. Don’t you think so?

You know ‘humiliation play’ is something I’m probably even more curious about than pain. I mean what is it about that kind of play that is so exciting? It’s like a very fine line between something totally degrading and yet so titillating – but why? What makes it so damned thrilling?

Most of Freud's theories were... ground-breaking and forward-thinking back then, but certainly not the answers to the questions in psychology.
To me the human psyche is eternally intriguing. If some genius ever does discover all the answers I’m sure life will become very dull.