I have to agree with the Wolfs. I believe honesty (and openess) is key. Just yesterday I reminded my sub she had failed to deliver a task. At that point she confessed she could not fit it into her daily life, and had been afraid to tell me that. She thought I might not want to be with her because of it...

I was, and am, dissapointed that she did not do that task. But am devastated she was afraid to tell me... I know she has a busy life, and understand when she can't finish a task on time, or at all. All I ask of her is to tell me. I need her feedback even more so because I am not there to witness it.

In any relationship, but even more so with BDSM communication is the most important element. And it should be honest and open, to both sides. How can you respect and/or trust someone you don't know...