Quote Originally Posted by Tojo
To me a wannabee sub is a bit of a non-entity.
I wouldn't say non-entity, however I can agree that a person who is new to the D/s part of BDSM can be in an exploration phase. That would just make them new, not a wannabe.

To me, a wanna be sub or Dom/me is one who wants to say the words, but doesn't follow through with the action. For the submissive, this would be someone that when asked if they would like to submit yet they don't really. For instance, if a Dom/me were to ask a person who projects that they are submissive to submit to a flogging, and when the activity starts, the submissive is controlling the scene by saying quicker, slower, lighter harder. Not just allowing the Dom/me to do thier thing, so long as it didn't surpass thier pain threshold.

Or as Phantome had mentioned, a submissive that claims no limits, or within minutes is asking to wear a collar.

For me those are examples of a wannabe submissive. Not saying that in either case the person couldn't learn, grow, and become a very good submissive. Those are just examples of what I think a wannabe sub is.

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