Isn't that sort of defeating the purpose? Canings are supposed to be extreme and intense. They leave marks and are designed to do so. The cane is also designed to inflict a tremendous amount of pain. It's used in many eastern cultures as a way of punishment, not pleasure.

I recommend that, if you don't like a full-on caning, buy a riding crop, a leather slapper, or at the very least a stiff leather flogger.

It is also my experience, and I have little with caning, that canes do not fully express the emotion and the mood of the person wielding it, unless that person happens to be angry or overtly sadistic. It is so much easier to express oneself with a flogger, a crop, a paddle or the palm of one's hand. A light brushing of the skin can cause more of a reaction sometimes than a hard swat with a stinging cane.

However, this is just my view. You are, of course, entitled to your own opinion.

Now, about candle wax and ice. Got nothing at all against either. 'Nuff said.