"I do whatever they ask me to. I live only for my Master/Mistress. His will is my wiill." LOL! That may well be true for some, perhaps many, but it leaves a lot to be desired insofar as specifics are concerned.

Originally posted by Finding_Fantasy I have yet to see a contract (mostly I have looked at BDSM sites) that didn't need a serious dose of reality check.
Chances are, the contract you've viewed are specifically tailored to create someone else's reality. I'm willing to bet that's why they don't seem reasonable. The contracts I've entered are NOT generic things. They've been altered again and again until all parties involved are happy. I suspect, and suggest, that you'd have to do the same thing if ever you entered into one. How else would you make it seem more real to you?

For example, I could not enter into a contract that stated I was to drop EVERYTHING every single time my Dominant called on the phone. I've a life to live. I'm a very independent woman. Instead, I would suggest some sort of system. Perhaps my Dominant could call only twice a month with a certain code phrase that meant I dropped everything and came running. The rest of the time, I have at least a little bit of control over if I'm to put my life on hold.

Originally posted by Finding_Fantasy Now, I know that contracts are supposed to be on what the Mistress/Master expects of their submissive/slave, but are is there anything that says what is expected of the dominant? And if so, what happens if the dominant breaks the contract?
YES! It's been my experience that all parties involved, not just the Dominant, are to provide input. I fell that a contract should exist for mutual enjoyment. No matter if I'm to be the Dominant or submissive, I make sure my needs and wishes are clearly stated.

For instance, I thoroughly enjoy making the life of my Dominant easier. It helps me to feel as if I'm doing something of great importance. So I am sure to include a few words that allow me to obsess over the cleanliness of a Domme's home, to help with her research, to walk her dog, or what not... with the added incentive of certain types of punishment (within clearly stated limits) if I fail to complete my duties.

Some Dominants don't like to do that. They don't like being bound by their contracts, so they leave themselves and their duties out of it. I like to include such things in a contract. At the very least, I'm sure that any Dominant I contract with agrees to explore certain activities that I want to experience.

Originally posted by Finding_Fantasy I would love to see an actual contract that has worked and so forth, but like I said, all I have seen are the ones on the internet and, like looking for information on immigration, looking for a contract is a waste of time.

This contract worked fairly well for Shellyfemme and I. There are a few things I would like to have changed (and will, the next time we enter a contract... which will be soon) but all in all it was a good time. It offered two levels of submission: Collared/ in a scene, and all other times. I wish I'd added at least a third level in between and stated the differences between those levels of responsibility and submission better. It worked because we both put our desires into it, and I'm quite proud of that fact.

Gah. Lunch break is over. Gotta get back to work. I hope this at least begins to answer a few questions for ya FF.