I've a problem, i've this girlfriend for about a year. She's all nice and that but she's scared of bondage,.. she knows im into it. She knew this even before we started a relationship. Hovever she has a traumatic experience with bondage, let me explain.

Her sister has been raped by her ex BF, she was bound to the bed with rope and a gun was held to her head. She escaped, 1 day later the police found him dead, he commited suicide. This boyfriend came along the house for years even after they broke up and was thrusted to the fullest extend.

Im not experienced as a dom but I am a carefull guy and I read into it allot, I promised her I would never tie her up if she didn't want to. I didn't mention I like D/s too, I thought that might scare her off way too much.

How do I get her to read into bdsm and convince her it's not that scary and weird?? I know I should take baby steps but confronting her with some handcuffs like playing isent an option for me. I'm a man of my word. She says she understands that I like it but she just freaks out by the thought of some1 holding her hand. I tried holding her hands tight above her head, a bit dominantly and she didnt seem to mind.

Any suggestions what to do??