openlyrefined

I decided a long time ago that I would not make New Year's resolutions anymore. They have done studies that even prove that we are more inclined to fail at resolutions when we force them on ourselves suddenly because it's a new year.

I have chosen to live how my grandfather would live - not as a resolution but as a way of life.

- family are always the most important.
- be the best friend you can be to everyone.
- be proud, yet humble
- work hard for everything you do

Part of making myself better means 'editing' people out of my life that I don't think are really here for me, and surrounding myself with good hearted people. I highly encourage everyone to do this. I mean really, why have friends that aren't....friends?

We all have people like this in our lives. They spread rumours, talk behind peoples backs (if they talk about everyone else when they leave, what makes you think they won’t do the same to you?), take their friends for granted (see: taxi, ATM, food delivery…), or they just don't care.

How is that ever going to make you feel good as a person? Again, sounds simple, but it’s so much harder, especially when you have friends out of habit or because you can't remember a time when you didn't know them. I caught myself asking, "but WHY am I friends with them?"

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Once I shut them out of my life, I got rid of the negativity I felt whenever I thought about these people. Half the time these types of people are too involved with their own issues to realize we haven't spoken in 6 months…or 2 years. Good riddance!


And finally the last part of my NON-NYR is to ask myself this:
What have I done to make the world a better place?

Obviously my existence alone isn't enough to make the world a better place, so I have chosen to LOOK for ways to make it better. This is actually a lot easier than one would think - even a genuine smile can make a person's day.

This could be the world immediately around me ie./ helping neighbours, holding a door or helping the elderly, to something bigger like picking up garbage off the street, making environmentally conscious purchases, buying less & therefore wasting less food...etc.

So I ask you:
What have YOU done to make the world a better place?

don't just sit there!


I’ll keep you up to date with part 2 of my Non-New Years Resolution of becoming a better person & other 'tips' to make it happen.

Maybe this year I'll actually stick with it!(?)

Toodles!
~ openlyrefined