openlyrefined

hi Everyone! I am openlyrefined & just wanted to write in here & get to know some other members a little more.

I have been in the lifestyle for 5 or six years, though wasn't active through all of them. I did tons of research, reading, went to muches, joined active groups, etc.

Right now I am actively reading forums, joined tasking and well, really just welcome questions, comments & new friends.

I have only had 1 other dom. We had met online & it was a relatively short relationship though immediately strict & severe (no complaints here!) but there was never a 'softer' side to him.

My current Dom is a wonderful man who has also been in the lifestyle for a few years, but like me, wasn't active. Now we are here together, both learning to be the best in our roles, not only for ourselves, but also so we can meet each others needs.

This is from one of my tasks, that I would like to share with you (and him).

I have started saying a prayer to my Master. so far only when he is not there, and the prayer itself might change depending on the day. For instance, last night's prayer went something like this:



Dear Master.
please help me learn to be the best submissive for your needs. Please help me obey when my first instinct it so not, to listen more carefully at all times and to open myself to learn to trust more both physically and mentally. (I have a hard time trusting people, and I am still learning that he has only my best interests at heart).

Please help me guide my master to help Him find his way and encourage him to try new things & experiment with new ideas with confidence & ease.

Please help me to remember that I am His submissive by choice. Remind me that not everything will send tingles 'down under' and that it's okay to sometimes not *want* to do something for Him but also remind me that I *choose* to do it for Him because I love him & this is the life I have chosen WITH him to suit both our needs.



.//.

The choice of a prayer came to me one night when in bed with Sir. I first mentioned it to him as a joke. At first I was kidding, but I then realized that this was a perfect way in *our* relationship, to show that I do see him as 'Higher Power' (than I, for me) and also allows for me to communicate to Him my needs & wants while still showing my commitment to Him as a sub, lover and girlfriend.

As soon as I feel more comfortable & have begun saying my 'prayers' nightly, I will begin saying them to Him directly.

When I first brought it up to him, my original idea was for him to write it for me - like a mantra to repeat. it was His Idea to make it more personal & chose the words myself. I'm glad I have. It makes me feel good as I fall asleep, and acts as a gentle reminder, and sometimes even a conscience, in the days to follow.

Anywhoodle, I would love to meet & hear from others with similar thoughts & interests.

All the best,
~ openlyrefined