...Or are they just fun? I think there was a thread about this already but I can't find it. So sorry for re-posting.

But I was just wondering if people actually got super excited by BDSM or if it's just fun. If men and women can really cum just by being tied up...or if it's just a fun activity to do before or during sex. I've actually never asked this question. No one has said whether or not it's fun or if it drives them bananas. Sure everyone here might enjoy some things. But is it truly a turn on or just something kinky to do before the main event?

I'm not talking about fetishes that directly stimulate sexual organs (like breasts, crotches, etc...). I'm talking about fetishes that are just fetishes and do not provide direct stimulation. Some guys like to walk about in women's clothes. But do people actually cum from that? Some women like to be spanked. But do spankings make them have an orgasm?

"Oh my god. Oh yes this latex is so hot. Soooo hot. Oh yeah I'm going to cum. I'm gonna cum!"

The reason I ask is because, I see fetish acts like spanking and bondage and dressing up as fun things that are separate from sex. I'm not turned on or wet. I'm just having fun dressing up like a little girl for a guy. Does that mean that I don't have true fetishes and that I don't belong in this lifestyle just because I'm not turned on by sadistic things?