Is this a "red flag"?

[lorem angelum]

I obviously am not a dominant...*grin*, but I have been taught well and have had a sounding board of people who have been in the lifestyle a long time. I am not sure that the amount of time someone has met you is relevant, sometimes people just click. It was 2 mos of interaction for me before I met who I was conversing with, this includes phone calls and keeping communication on a daily basis. I do AGREE THAT SAFETY IS PARAMOUNT!! That you asked for references show's your not just willing to be "sweet talked" into anything. I to had a safe call and other means of making sure he was who he said he was...exchanging names and then I.D.'s when you meet is a good idea. If he is reluctant or pushes without any of these things, then I totally agree....bye bye baby. Just enjoy the site,ask questions, have fun and above all be safe. Good luck..
la

[Silverraven]

Thank you very much!!!

[Silverraven]

I wanted to share with you how all of this played out. I told him that friends of mine have advised me not to rush into anything and just give it time. The message I got back was very angry. The main issue was the fact that I have told other people about him and that we chat and how dare I do that( this is the short version). So politely I told him that we do not seem to be on the same page and the fact he is so angryq about me speaking with others is disturbing. I warned him that I am ending all comunication with him. In the last message he send, he warned me that I will go back to him when I see what types of people are in the forum where we chat.
I blocke him at this point and I really feel like I dodged a bullet tonight. On my second day in the forum... a little discouraging.
One more time - thanks for everything!

[Malich]

Phew, that was a close call.

I am glad you asked for advice. This also proves that some people who are respected in the community really do not deserve to be there. But, look up, this is a good learning experience where you did not get hurt in the lesson. So, well done for taking the safe route!

Next time will be better!