As most experienced players will tell you there is no single "correct" way to do BDSM, what is right is what's right for the specific individuals involved. There are plenty of very knowledgeable people who frequent the chat here and if you have questions they're quite willing to answer them and discuss the various options available to you, there are also some excellent non-fiction book out which can help you better understand both the scene itself and how to find what will work best both for you and for any partner with whom you may become involved. Best of luck to you with your search and welcome to the wide, weird, and wonderful world of kink.