Hot Sex, Respect, Etiquette and Manners?

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I discovered bdsm & kink stuff here in the library. I read stories forever and accidentally clicked on the forums and a whole new world opened up! Having access to online information and a site like this that created interaction did give me that instant thrill, that sub frenzy of I want to do everything right now! I was also fortunate enough to meet someone here who I met in real life. He encouraged me to continue exploring bdsm offline (real time!) and I made that leap in to discovering my local community.

Most of the folks in the community here - whether young/old - newbie/experienced - seem interested in fostering relationships, in passing down information, in sharing skills. There are tons of groups, munches, seminars, parties, demos to learn about virtually everything.

I will say there are some from the Old Guard who do voice the same concerns of too much, too soon. I find that this bridge is gapped by the "oldies" getting more involved with the newbies, helping them jump to real life in a safe way. It's the way of the world and finding new ways to make the bdsm community - whether online or real life - safer is the challenge. Ultimately, it comes down to personal responsibility.

Online has allowed me to have that thrill of the moment, of exploring from the comfort of my own home (in pj's, eating oreos but feeling all sexy just the same), of meeting people I would've never met in a million years. Taking that to real life was even more fun.